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Child Abuse Story From Samantha

by Samantha
(New York, USA)

When I was four, my brother was seven. He was being sexually abused by HIS stepmother, whom he saw every other weekend. A year later, she and his father divorced and he did not see her for awhile. During the time she was absent from his life he searched for someone to make him feel like she did, but knowing that it was very secretive between them, he chose me because I already followed him everywhere when he was home.

It started when I was five. He would touch me and make me touch him. Then it escalated when I was eight years of age. He and I were at my aunt's home for the night. My cousin, who is the same age as him, called me into a room. Thinking I was safe, I went. There was another person in the room. When I arrived, I was pushed to the floor and stripped by my brother while my cousin locked the door and turned out the lights. Before I could scream, they told me that if anyone found out they would hate me forever, because this was all my fault. They told me that I was too cute and they couldn't stop! This continued for another four years, until my aunt stopped sitting me because I stole from her as a last resort: a 14k hollow gold dolphin necklace. In between this time, we went to her house after school every day with my little sister, who was not involved. Two out of three other children took part in these acts against me.

I remember one time that the oldest pushed me into a closet through a cubby to his room in the basement, where he raped me for two hours, until it was time for dinner and his mom called us. After he was done, he told me I would be killed if anyone found out.

Since the last incident with them, two years went by. I was prescribed a heavy sleep medication to get me through the night without 'night terrors' as my family calls them, where I would sit up and scream bloody murder and say things like "No!" and "Stop!" I would kick and punch people who came close to me. At one point, I bit a chunk out of my father's hand when he tried to wake me.

It is now two years later. I am eighteen. I found out six months ago that my ex-stepbrother has been sexually assaulting me when I was medicated!! I would sleep in my room in my underwear and a t-shirt!! My real brother, cousin and stepbrother are all in prison for crimes not related to me, and I am a single mother of my stepbrother's child because the idiot was not protected. I did not press charges against anyone because my mom found out about the young child rape and took me to the doctor's and the doctor found nothing!! Now it's too late and my stepbrother has everyone convinced that it was consensual!! IT WASN'T!!!!

Darlene's comments to this "Child Abuse Story From Samantha can be found below. If you do not see the comments I've written, please be patient, as there is a system glitch regarding comments going live on my site. Samantha, I replied to your story June 7, 2008, comments titled "I believe you..." Keep checking back to this page. I thank you Samantha and my other visitors for your understanding while I work at getting this minor malfunction rectified.

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Child Abuse Story From Samantha

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Jun 07, 2008
I believe you...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Samantha, I am not a lawyer, so please understand that upfront before you read on. In the state of New York, (assuming the offenses you relayed in your story actually occurred in the state of New York), the statute of limitations on sexual offenses against a minor do not start until that offended-against child reaches the age of 18 years. There is a possibility that charges could be laid against your stepbrother. But again, I'm not in any kind of a position to advise you, nor do I tell you this with absolute certainty. Consult the services of an attorney for more information.

In the meantime, please consider seeking out some form of counselling in order to help you deal with the emotional uproar you are facing each and every day. If you don't, your child will suffer right along with you. Nothing of what happened to you at the hands of your stepbrother and cousin was your fault. And none of it is your child's fault, either. Your stepbrother and cousin were twisted, and the things they told you were equally twisted. The best gift you can give to yourself, the best gift you can give your child, is to take good care of his/her mother.

If you are still living in an unhealthy environment where people refuse to believe you, find a way to get out of it. Your emotional state is dependent on the support you receive from your family and circle of friends. Take advantage of any and all resources available to you, Samantha. Contact your local women's shelter; they may be able to steer you toward such resources. You and your child deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. Start by giving yourself that dignity and respect.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jun 09, 2008
Shocked
by: Hayley

Hi Samantha, I have just read your story, and don't know what to say or more accurately type. That is so terrible what your cousins did to you and you have been so strong for all this time. It is terrible not to be believed, and you certainly deserve to be. I am with Darlene on this, get in touch with everyone you can who will help you to conquer this. It is a natural reaction to not want anyone near you after this ordeal. Those people are terrible to say you consented to it when you were obviously distressed. The are obviously lying to save their own skins. Good luck with getting help, hang on in there, and DON'T EVER GIVE UP!

Jun 12, 2008
To Samantha:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I'm posting this in an effort to release the other comments currently in queue for this submission; there is a system glitch that has yet to be resolved. My sincere apologies for the delay in getting these comments to appear on this page. I realize it's an inconvenience, but rest assured, I continue to work at trying to fix this problem.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Oct 02, 2008
damn
by: person

im sooo sorry about your story but i really wanna say is that is some big time bull shit!!
that fool got u pregnant and no one did nothin
how stupid!! it gets me mad knowing dumb asses get away with the stuff they do. i really believe u should do somthing about it. when i first read this the ending made my jaw drop i was really surprised why should u suffer for his sins??
i really think u should try to get the better bargin of what happened or at least beat his ass ya kno wut i mean but i still am very sorry for u
god bless!!

Dec 07, 2008
It is not your fault
by: Samissoul

You have to believe it is NOT YOUR FAULT, You did nothing to invite this behavior. I can understand what you are saying as i have been through a similar situation with an uncle. if they say you are too cut, well so what. You never did this to anyone who you thought was too cute.The fault is theirs. You take care and may god be with you and help you.

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