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Child Abuse Story From Sachia

by Sachia
(Blair, New England, USA)




My old next door neighbors were very Christian. When I was around the age of 5, a bunch of us kids were playing outside with water guns. The oldest boy of this Christian family asked me to sit on his lap so we could play peek-a-boo. Me being only 5, I really liked the game peek-a-boo, so I got on his lap. He bent me over and was like ready to play. I shook my head no, but still, he put his finger down my bottoms. When I finally found out what he was doing, I was in therapy. I had to show diagrams of what happened, and all this stuff. And before they caught him, he and his Christian family had fled to Texas.

I regret every moment with that family. I wish it never happened. Each and every day that goes by, I wish I had never sat on that lap. I guess some things never can re-happen....

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Feb 19, 2008
You must change the way you think about this...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Of course you wish it had never happened. But it DID happen; and you are not to blame for it, Sachia. Your words clearly tell me that you do blame yourself. What this boy did to you was wrong and vile. You cannot place adult values on things you did and choices you made as a child, especially as a five-year-old! How could you have possibly known better? How could you have possibly protected yourself? You are not to blame; HE was, and IS, to blame. Period. No question about it.

You must learn to change the way you are thinking about this if you have any hope of healing from the emotional trauma. Every day you focus on the molestation, every day you wish you had never sat on this disturbed boy's lap, you not only re-live every dreadful moment, you give up your power to that boy. You must take back that power. I urge you to get some form of counseling in order to help you do that, Sachia. This boy and his cowardice family don't deserve one more second of your oh-so precious life. And Sachia, nothing, no matter how good or bad, can ever re-happen, except in the limitless power of our own minds.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Feb 19, 2008
hi
by: Ashli G. from S.C.

hi i read your story and im glade that you are ok. Just stay stronge and keep your head up and things will keep getting briter!!
Ashli G.

Feb 20, 2008
wow i hate that guy
by: Anonymous

poor girl people thath r like that r so sick in the head

Feb 21, 2008
Don't Blame Yourself
by: Linda

It wasn't your fault, the boy was a pervert. You were only five years old. I'm glad they left town. You can get over this and have a happy life. Don't let the past actions of that boy, hold you back. I wish you well.

Feb 21, 2008
Christian Family?
by: Linda

What kind of christian does that to a five year old? I glad they fled town and your your parents dealt with your abuse. Don't blame yourself for what that child molester did. It wasn't your fault!

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