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Child Abuse Story From Rosalie L

by Rosalie L
(Montana, USA)




I used to think who would listen, who would care? For as long as I can remember,We were beat (slapped ,punched,spanked,hair pulled) for no reason some times. One time my mother hit me so hard on my back my kidneys were bruised,I hurt so bad especially when i tried to pee.My mother took me to the doctor,she made me say I was playing and a neighbor boy hit me. I think though the worst times were when she would bring men home to sleep in the same bed. they would touch me, put they're fingers in me and I would lay there as still as possible with my eyes closed, just hoping and praying it would stop. I felt so dirty.After I became an adult I would lay there when I was making love and all I could think about was how could she not know they were doing those things to me?How could she not know where their hands were? Anyway back to my story,when I was about 6, this man (not the man from before) started babysitting.I put my sister closer to the wall, so he couldn't touch her,but he did anyway.I told my mother and she said she would take care of it. Imagine my horror when I came home one evening to find him sitting there. My mom told me he was babysitting.I began to cry, to act out in anger! She told me that when she told my father he said I was lying,that he didn't believe me! She began to beat me with a branch she broke off a rose bush.I had many cuts and scratches. Of course he cleaned me up,saying my parents didn't care, that he loved me.After that I never complained again. He would leave me money not to say anything.My mom thought "oh how nice,after all those mean things you said" Many more incidents happened but I think those early years pretty much shaped my life for many years to come.I grew up thinking I was pretty worthless, one day I did confront my father he said he never knew, my mom had never told him. I believe him because he cried then became very angry. Anyway it was too little too late.




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May 18, 2011
Rosalie:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your mother was twisted in her thinking. She betrayed and abandoned you during a time when you needed her most. The "babysitter" groomed his way into your life and took advantage of you because your mother enabled him to do so. I do hope you are in some form of counselling in order to help you deal with the repercussions of what you endured growing up. You deserve that kind of help. What happened wasn't your fault. Blame lies squarely on your abusers and the enablers. Always remember that. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
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author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir


May 19, 2011
Always believe in your self: Get help: You'll be fine
by: maurice

Genuine Father's have real hearts for their children: If only your mother shared with him you would have been saved such awful abuses: She was on twisted in mind sicko: enableing a groomer to babysit you knowing he was molesting and abusing you and your sister: You are a real sister doing everything to protect your little sister from his beastly touching of her: He should be put away for the rest of his life minding animals in a wide open space caged in with them and being fed like them: I get aggrier by the day knowing there a sickos like him in our society: Rosali L Darlene has taken you into her heart: Given you loving, encourageing words of affirmation: I am not to blame: It was not my fault: Great you found her site you will be fine: You are highly intelligent, special, beautiful, wonderful, great, loving, caring, amazing, totally honest: you shared your pain of abuse Physiacal/sexual emotional in truth as it happened to you: Oh Rosalie Be strong now, be brave now, surround yourself with real friends: I am sure you have a few young adult females your own age that you are close to and you trust with your intimate stuff with: They are precious friends: Allow them to be our strength and go for some form of counselling: You will bloosom and grow to be your real self after a few sessions: It will be painful at the beginning but your therapist will put it all in perspective for you; There is a life to be lived after abuse: Hi I am almost certain you are still at an age where you can be active and alive having a healthy mind in a healthy body: Yes, Rosalie it will mean getting out into playing fields with like-minded friends and people your own age playing taking part together playing rugby, basket ball, net ball, what ever in a tteam: You'll know the difference in a short time: You'll make real freinds for life: You'll find the right Male to love and cherish you, help you over come that awful fear that those beasts put in to you with the permission of your sicko of a mother: You'll be fine, you deserve the best: Darlene wants that for you: I want it for myself; I am going to have it: I WILL I CAN I MUST BECAUSE I A WORTH IT: Believe it Rosalie you know it is true: Now be gentle and kind to yourself and your beautiful body: Look in the mirror, just hug and cuddle it, say nice things aboutr it, I have a beautiful whatever: instead of I don't like this and that whatever: soothe it all over with creams and oils, massage them into it: look in the mirror NOW hug and say I LOVE ME; you'll be fine Rosalie: I will etc.

May 19, 2011
Such cruelty
by: Anonymous

Rosalie, I can't believe that your mom would choose to beat, berate and even abandon you to the so-called care of that sick monster of a babysitter and even allow him to offend and abuse you...how dare she! Something's seriously wrong with her and she should've known better and loved and cherished you. Oh, and I'm just as disgusted by her reaction towards her trying to turn to her for help against that pervert of a babysitter; I hate women who choose men over their own children because children should always come first! Mothers who abuse their own daughters are, in fact, one of the real abusers...the little beasts. Oh, and you are not to blame for their sadistic behavior; they are to blame because they chose to offend and abuse you. You were the child; they were the adults; they had all the power and only misused it over you. I hope that you're in a safe place now...and if not, please tell someone you really trust and keep telling until he/she will finally listen to you and help you.

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