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Jan 20, 2012
 Rosa:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I understand that you love your father. But love doesn't mean taking responsibility for someone who doesn't want to heal. He is mentally ill, and the drugs and alcohol have made that mental illness much worse. You can't help your father because he doesn't want to help him Self. You must focus on getting your Self healthy and learning boundaries. Staying with him while he's in this condition is enabling him. You said you're in college...reach out to all the resources available to you while there. Most colleges have counselling available to their students. Utilize those services. Let them help you. You are vulnerable and at risk for other abuses, but if you reach out for the counselling you need, that can all change. You're too worthy not to, Rosa. All those terrible things your stepmother called you and left you believing are lies. The adults in your life were, and are, so deeply damaged themselves that they have lashed out at you. Don't make the mistake of believing and living those lies. You can and will make choices in your life that are far different than the disturbed and twisted choices that were made for you. You have that power. I send you love, light and positive energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Jan 21, 2012
 The Horror
by: Anonymous

Rosa, you were given a raw, crappy deal. Your parents, along with your uncle and stepparents are truly helpless bullies. Oh, and those nasty names that they called you are nothing but lies. Mature, stable adults don't dope up their kids on unnecessary medications; mature, stable adults don't blame their kids, let alone when they refuse to accept their own responsibilities; mature, stable adults don't scream and yell at anybody; mature, stable adults don't call anyone names; especially their own precious kids; only mentally sick, deeply disturbed people would resort to such childish tactics. They are really acting like little 5-year-olds trapped in grown-up bodies because they are stuck in their own childhood. Your life shouldn't have been used as a pawn for their immature, sick misery. Help yourself, not them; it's up to them to decide when to start helping themselves. Oh, and it's equally wrong for your stepmom to try and stop you from having friends and that's because she's so jealous that she didn't want you to be happy and have the perfect friends she never had; she wanted you to be miserable just like her (and she's miserable because she chose to be that way). But don't let her do that anymore; don't worry about what she had to say to you anymore; just be happy and keep living your own life if you can because haters are not worth the time. You are not to blame for their sadistic, ignorant behavior; they are to blame because they chose to abuse you. You were the child; they were the adults; they had all the power and only misused it over you. I'm glad that your boyfriend is with you now because he's so sweet for doing that, I hope that you try counselling.
Jan 21, 2012
 Rosa
by: Rita M

Hi Rosa
I am really amazed at your story.You have had it rough and yet you have strength.You may not recongnize it because you are in the eye of the storm.Others can see from the outside.I just want to sayn that your father left your stepmother in charge and didn't observe what she was doing.You were stuck between adults that had problems.
First of all your stepmother has no legal rights
to you because she is not your true mother.She was
basically dumped on you so he didn't have to take
on the responsabilities because he couldn't help himeself.It is only nataural that you have alot of fears.What really amazes me here is that you
came out of your room and realized that there is life.A beautiful young lady like that,thata is so hurt and full of fear stood up and started putting boundries around you and spoke up even with your fears.Don't you ever lose that!With
the thing here just ot encourage you,there is nothing wrong with being a friend to black people.
They have feeling too and are just like everyone
else too.They have tears and feel too.You are amazing please keep going.If you ever need hlpe
just reach out.It may sometimes hurt to heal but
getting it out and freeing yourself from all of these bondages you will see the darkness turn into
light,because you are well worth it.Don't give up.
Rita M

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