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Child Abuse Story From Ron

by Ron
(Oregon, USA)




Sometime before the age of two my 8 year older half sister attempted to cut my penis off with a pair of scissors. My grandmother caught her in the act. I have no memory of it but did receive stitches and do remember still having those stitches about two years later when they finally came out.

The same half sister again tried to cut my penis off when I was 5. I kicked her in the crotch and she fell. I kicked her a few times and ran. Between the ages of 4 and 8, the half sister would dress me up like a girl and parade me down the street and to the park. Between the ages of 4 and 6 I actually enjoyed the dress up part but never went outside that way.

Now I am 63 and have never been in a relationship. I have had exactly 4 women who I dated more than 3 times and have never dated any woman more than 5 times. And I have never kissed a woman until the 3rd date. All kisses were simply what I call Catholic School Girl Kisses. A type of kiss I could have given my grandmother, but of course a different effect with a woman I am attracted to. With the exception of high class prostitutes, I have never had sex with a woman. And I haven't been with a prostitute since 1982.

So my life is all screwed up due to this abuse and likely other things created by it. I sure wish I had counseling about this, at least by high school.

Thanks for reading this. I hope it helps other men in dealing with sex abuse and maybe women as well. Some cretin where I live sodomized an 11 month old baby about a month ago. I sure would like a few minutes with him. Someone like that need not be wasting air.




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Child Abuse Story From Ron

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Jul 22, 2011
Ron:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your half sister truly was twisted and disturbed; sick, actually. I can't begin to imagine the psychological problems she had that would bring her to do such a heinous act at such a young age. You were left at risk, and with the severe repercussions of her actions. There was obviously neglect going on, since your sister couldn't be trusted to be near you without strict supervision. Obviously, that strict supervision didn't happen. You BOTH needed counselling. Moreso, she needed to be removed from the family in order to keep you safe.

You speak as though it's too late for you. It's not out of the realm of possibility for you to get the counselling you need now, Ron. Being 63 doesn't preclude the possibility. Instead of looking at things in a way that is more grief in what you didn't have as a result of sexual abuse, try looking at things from this point forward. In fact, now would be the BEST time. You understand more about life in general and how the sexual abuse adversely affected you throughout your life; that's a great advantage when entering counselling. You recognize you need help, meaning you're open to it. You realize that counselling would help; another huge advantage. It's never too late. And the fact that we live in a world that is much more open to men speaking out about their sexual abuse makes it even timelier. As a young man, counselling for sexual abuse at the hands of a female, a child at that, likely wasn't available to you, or was even an option. That type of counselling IS available now, but you need to seek it out. So reach out for the help you need, Ron. You didn't deserve to be sexually abused. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Jul 23, 2011
Such Horror
by: Anonymous

Ron, where were your parents all that time? I can't believe that they abandoned you to the so-called care of that sick, sadistic monster of a sister and allow her to offend you...how dare they! Oh, and I know how it feels when you were born into such a house where your sick sister didn't want you to be a boy when you were born. You deserved so much better than what she did to you. You are not to blame for her sadistic, ignorant behavior; She had all the power and only misused it over you. Oh, and I hope that you're in a safe place now and that you try counselling.

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