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Child Abuse Story From Ramesh

by Ramesh
(Braintree, Essex, UK)




Was abused since 3 years old: 
I am writing this story about my life. I was born in London but was taken back to this Asian country where my parents were and left me there with my relatives care. I didn't get any love from my parents. After 2 years in London my parents came back home to this Asian country. By then I was mixing with the wrong kids and had no parents to guide me in the right way.

One day I was playing with the kids outside my house where we had a coconut tree. I climbed the tree and started throwing peanuts for my friends to pick up. On that night when my mum came from work she burned my left leg for not giving some peanuts to my sister. Since then I had a torn ear, broken arm, cut on my arm and was ill treated since. I did not get any proper education because I can't stay with my parents, even when I am older because of the abuse I had since I was young. I don't deny saying that I was naughty when I was young because my parents were not there when I needed them. Now anywhere I go they keep abusing me. I am so unhappy with all this and don't know where to go for help to put all this behind me. It keeps haunting me now, even though I have my own kids. I don't know how to get this out of mind.

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Nov 29, 2008
Counselling can help...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Ramesh, I recommend some form of counselling to help you with "putting this (your past) behind you." You see, it's not so much the memories that are the problem; it's your thoughts about what happened to you that cause the turmoil in your life. As long as you try to get those thoughts out of your mind, they will continue to haunt you. You can't let go of thoughts, Ramesh; thoughts let go of you, but only when you question those thoughts and then reverse them. A professional counsellor can help you with that.

A few weeks ago I offered an approach on a particular story that you might find useful: Krystle's story. The process is the same regardless of the "unhealthy" thought you are dealing with, so I suggest you try applying it to your unhealthy stressful thoughts. Again, a counsellor should be able to go through this process with you. But it still means you've got some work to do. There is no getting around that. Look at it from this perspective: You've already gone through the worst of it and you are no longer being abused. You are now in a safe place. Now it's up to you. Do it for your own sake, and for the sake of your children; it's one of the best gifts you can possibly give them.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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