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Child Abuse Story From Phylicia

by Phylicia N
(Inman, Kansas, USA)




The pain nobody can see: 
I'm 16 now, and I feel like I should share my life story with others to show they are not alone. When I was a baby, my mom had started doing drugs. Then came my little brother. As she used more, the abuse became an every day thing. I started to notice that she would not make my brother do chores, just me. And I was the only one getting in trouble.

I started to make an escape plan over the years, but I never got the time to go through with it, because I had to take care of my younger brother and life just kept getting harder. Not only was my mom abusing me, her boyfriend was abusing me by hitting me with 4x4s. Nobody believed me when I told them at school. They told my mom, and it got worse.

When she left her boyfriend, I thought it may get better. But then she got with a girl, and it stayed the same. I told my school again. I took the chance and I did what I thought was the right thing. I knew my mom wouldn't hurt my brother, so I left with a lady I babysat for. She was on her drug spree, and the next day I told the cop at my school. He believed me, and took us to a protection house, a youth shelter, where we were safe. After 2 months of being there, we went to a terrible foster home that was just like home...so they let us go with our grandparents. After a year of fighting for us, now we are getting adopted by them.

I now go to a great school and have awesome friends. Life is better. It's rough now, but it's getting better.

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Child Abuse Story From Phylicia

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Jan 15, 2008
Things shouldn't have happened the way they did...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You didn't deserve to have a mother hooked on drugs. You didn't deserve to be treated so violently by her boyfriend. Your mother should have been there to love and nurture and protect you. You deserved that, Phylicia. It was your birthright.

I'm so glad you were determined to tell until someone listened. Someone should have listened much sooner. The school should NEVER have told your mother what you disclosed to them; they should have reported your disclosure to Child Protection Services, who in turn should have investigated and removed you from such a corrupt home environment.

I'm delighted that you are now with what seems to be loving grandparents, and that you are in a good school and have friends. That's the way life is supposed to be for teenagers, that's the way life is supposed to be for YOU.

Life will continue to get better for you, Phylicia, because you're courageous, resilient, and because you have such a strong sense of what is right and wrong. Stay in school, enjoy your friends, and if at all possible, talk to a counsellor about the emotional stuff you are dealing with. You're worth it, Phylicia, you are definitely worth it.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jan 21, 2008
U GO GURL!!!
by: hiya!

Gurl ur definitly a idol 2 sum child abused people out der! U never broke down because of wat they did 2 u, now dat takes will power! And even if no one belived u, u kept on going on and beliving in ur self! Wow! Now dats amazing! U go gurl!

Mar 03, 2008
u are so brave
by: bell

im so happy to hear ur finally ok and that it didnt get worse with time cuz its harder to heal, but the good thing is ur out of danger and that ur safe... good luck

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