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Child Abuse Story From Paige S

by Paige S
(Kitwe, Zambia)




The man who ruined my life: 
My story is one i can never forget. My great aunts son came to stay with us. He was from austria. It was only me my mom and him in the house. My mom needed to go out and do some shopping so she left HIM to babysit me. I was only six at the time. When my mom left HE asked me if i wanted the present he bought me from austria. Of corse i said yes. And he told me to follow him to the spare bedroom. I did so because i was soooo excited. When we reached the room HE slammed the door and locked it and went to close the curtains. We were now both in the room. He started to undress me and i asked him what he was doing. He said he was doing and he said he wanted me to try on the clothes he bought me. I was now completely naked. I was a small little girl. Then he picked me up and threw me onto the bed. I started to cry. Maybe he thought it was a joke. I tried to climb off the bed but he held me down. I was terrified. Then he got undressed too. He was also naked. He got on top of me and put his penis into my vagina. It hurt alot because i was too young for this sort of thing! He even made me give him oral sex. This went on for about forty five mnutes. I was wondering what was taking my mom so long. When he had finshed abusing me he got off the bed and got dressed. I was too afraid to move. The tears came running. My eyes were so sore. He lifted me up and dressed me again. He opened the curtains and the door. But before we left the room he asked me if i had fun. I didnt answer. I just ran to the lounge. I was sitting on the carpet playing with my toys. He came and sat on the couch and it was sooo awkward. About ten minutes later, my mom came back. She put the things she had got into the kitchen. She walked into the lounge where me and HIM were. She asked me if i had had fun. I pretended not to hear her. She walked away with a smile and then a laugh. I went to my room, taking the house phone with me. I called up my brothers girlfriend who was in her twenties. I asked to speak with my brother but he was working late. So i told her what had happened and she said she would come pick me up. You might be wondering why i didnt call my dad? Well its because he died when i was three. I snuck out of the house when my brothers girlfriend came. I stayed at her house for the night. Eventually after staying with my bro and his gf for two weeks i found out that my mom knew what HE was going to do to me when she went out. HE had paid my mom! I couldnt believe it! I am now thirteen and i live with my brother. I dropped out of school when i was seven and i have just started school again this year. My brother can now afford for me to go to school. I have never seen my mom since the day i got raped by a member of my own family and i never want to see her again. My story is a tragic one and it has ruined my life. I will never have the chance to experience a happy life. Thank you for reading this. -Paige






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Child Abuse Story From Paige S

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Jul 03, 2011
Paige:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

There is EVERY chance you will lead a happy life, but you must want to have a happy life. Yes, what this person did to you—and what your mother did to you—was unconscionable. That doesn't mean that what happened means that you can never again be happy. Yes, I realize you will never forget what happened. But forgetting isn't the answer, because forgetting likely will not happen. Healing and recovery is the answer. And the way to do that is to seek out some form of counselling in order to deal with the effects of what this cousin did to you, and the betrayal and abandonment of your mother. You had no ability to control the situation as a little girl, you had no power. But as you grow and mature, as you move through the various ages and stages of your life, you CAN take your power back. But you must WANT to before that can happen. I'm delighted that you are now in a safe place. Now I hope you can find the resources to get yourself the help you need so that you can begin to bring happiness into your life. You certainly deserve it. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir


Jul 03, 2011
The Horror
by: Anonymous

Paige, what that molester did to you was disgusting and ungrateful and he should go to prison for raping you. As for your mom, shame on her for running away from you instead of protecting you from that pig! I am just as disgusted by her reaction towards you getting offended; I hate women who choose men over their own children because children should always come first. You might want to talk to someone you really trust.

Jul 05, 2011
I am not to blame: He preyed on my innocence and vunerability
by: maurice

I'll prove to both that they did not ruin MY LIFE Paige S. you will be a winner: you were so brave, knowing you needed to tell someone what that beast of a cousin did to you with the assistance of your mother: Two bad, bad sicko's of male and female of the human species: Paige S you had the courage to call you brother's girl friend after what he did to you: Good on you because that says about you, you are highly intelligent, you knew he was a beast, was wrong taking your clothes off penetrating you: If I was your brother God only knows what I would have done to your mother and him: Your brotehr and his Girl-friend made you safe and that was enough to do for you: You are safe now: I only hope you can find a way to stay in education: Easier for me to say because your crcumstances are real: Don't give up on it PaigeS ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF: Read as many books even of your friends and self learn because you are gifted, tallented and highly intelligent: Play games with your friends, show off your skills be a leader/captain of your team of friends: Darlene, sure speoke to you from her heart: she was six years of age too and knows what your body was forced to endure and especially the pain: She loves and cares about you big time: wants what is the best for you: Try and understand her encourageing words: You'll be a winner in your own right over those two sicko's have real friends your own age and gender who'll watch out for you and you can tell your real girlie feeling to: Stay safe: Be safe:

Jul 08, 2011
you are so brave.
by: eve

I too was sexually abused at about the same age, and I just wanted to say thank you for being so brave and having the courage to share your story.
I was not as brave as you at that age and I never told. I do wish I could have been as brave as you and told on the man who did those terrible things to me. I know that by you being so brave you have helped someone else.

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