Child Abuse Story From Norma S

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Child Abuse Story From Norma S

by Norma S
(Texas, USA)

My story began when I was 9 or 10 years old. My mother married her first cousin which means he was my second cousin. I was taking a shower and he came in the bathroom to (he told me to get his deodorant) but he stayed there and just stared at me. I started to get very nervous and I got out to get dressed. He told me to stop getting dressed and go into the bedroom to talk to him. I did as he said because he was suppose to be like a dad to me. He made me do things to him that a 10 year old shouldn't be doing! He never actually raped me until I was 13. It was molesting for 2 years and then moved to rape. I never told anyone out of fear. I waited till he got me pregnant and I had the baby to tell my family. My mother of course blamed it all on me and told me I must have given him the impression I wanted him! How dare her! I was a child! I till this day have people suggest that part of me must have enjoyed it because I waited 7 years to tell anyone...really?? I'm still messed up emotionally from this and I'm 34 years old. I can't talk to anyone about this anymore. Everyone thinks that just because you have a penis inside you that some part of you enjoyed it...why? Why do people think this way? I'm starting to think maybe I will never recover from this.

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Oct 18, 2011

Norma:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

It is highly likely that this pedophile married your mother in order to gain access to you, difficult as that may be to consider. As for your mother and others, in a word, it's "ignorance" that prevents people from understanding that a child cannot consent and that a child doesn't disclose out of fear. Fear of not being believed, fear of reprisals, fear on many levels. What's important in your recovery is not to tie your healing into what others think or say. The investment has to be in YOU, not anyone else. When people, often family members, start pointing the finger of blame at the one person who is never to blame—the child—it's often because they would rather believe the offender than admit they had some part in the abuse continuing. That they in some way enabled the abuse. You see, there would have been signs that they ignored, signs that something was wrong. YOU know the truth, Norma. You know what this pedophile did to you. And you KNOW you're not to blame. You CAN get through this, but it means seeking out help for your Self. Please consider some form of counselling in order to help you deal, not only with the sexual abuse itself, but also the betrayal and abandonment of your mother and others you trusted with the secret of what happened. Your may also need to sever the ties with the people who are working against your healing and recovery; sometimes walking along this path means separating from family in order to find your own way, without being dragged backwards. Believe in your Self, Norma. You have the strength and fortitude...I know this because not only did you survive the assaults, you had the amazing courage to speak out about it. It doesn't matter what age you were when you did speak out, it only matters that you did. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

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