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Child Abuse Story From No Name

by No Name
( Location Undisclosed)

My story began a very long time ago. I can't tell you when it started, but I can tell you when it stopped. I had just turned sixteen three weeks before.

You know the man you call Dad or Daddy, well he's the one who raped me, beat me and broke a bottle over my head and told me to get a boyfriend just in case I got pregnant. Isn't that hoot. I remember seeing stars many times when he would rape me and beat the crap out of me. Man I was scared of that man.

When I was around 5 or 6, it was a hot summer day. We kids (five brothers and me) were outside playing. One of my brothers told me Daddy wants you, so I went into the house, into his and Mom's bedroom...I remember thinking how cool it felt in there after being in the hot outdoors--we were not allowed in the house, only when they told us we could. Oh yea, I had a mom...have one. I think she knew about it. Getting ahead of myself...sorry....so many things running through my brain. Sorry. Well this is one of the first time I remember. He called me over and made me get in bed with him. Made me touch him and other things...but I still can't remember it all. I blocked a lot of it out. It's like pieces of things that happen.

I know it happened every time Mom or my aunt was gone or somewhere...I do not know where. My aunt was old and my mom worked in a mill, yea she was scare of him. He would beat the crap out of her and she'd run outside in her bra and panties, hiding from him. He was a truck driver. Every time he came off a trip, he would tell Mom to send me into their room...I wonder what she thought....

In between all that, he got a new woman, eight hours away. That woman had three kids from two different men and she was a preacher's daughter. For awhile HE stayed away from us. Life got better in that part, but my mom started dating and partying. At the age of 10 or 11, I got to go to bars and dance halls. My mom would use me to get guys to give her things. Being a kid and not knowing any better, I thought it was cool.

One day HE came through, driving his truck. Told Mom he was gonna take me up to where he lived for two weeks. Those two weeks turn into 5 to 6 years. I was abused as much as he could get by with, without his other wife knowing. I hated being alone with him. I knew I could not tell anyone or he would beat me. You always think it couldn't get any worse....was I wrong. I don't know what happen but one day his other wife asked me about it...I told her...I was thinking I'm safe now....WRONG...it got worse...she got mad, I guess they fought...I don't know. All I know is she hated me...That's how it felt...He would come to my bed and his wife would stand there and watch. Made me do things a little girl should never have to go through. The moment I told her I became their slave in all ways. I was maid, I couldn't eat with family, I had to clean up after them. I was kept out of the house at all times until they allowed me in.

I remember one time they were making me wipe potatoes off. It was winter, real cold. His wife's mother lived close by and she brought me something to eat. It is so funny how so many people know what's going on and DO nothing....

I did get to go to school. I guess what happen next is a little fuzzy...I was in gym, I was covered with black and blue marks from my head to my legs...just turned 16. A lady that work as a dentist at the school saw me, called me to her office. Being an abused child, you understand how hard it is to tell someone. I don't remember how long it took before I started trusting her. I remember crying and being scared. She got a case worker (a man). But God bless him. He got me out of there before that Man got back from a trip. I really don't know what happen...all I remember is I spent the night with a school friend, then ended up with great foster parents.

I have learned not all family is like that. I never knew...I thought that was the way families were. There is so much more but it so sick, and I feel I got lucky. I was married. My ex's family taught me so much and I still love them. We talk once in awhile. I have two great grown kids. Both doing great. I am turning 50 in October...and I feel I broke the chain of my side of the family. I have a great husband. It was my fault the first broke up...but we get along. There is something my foster mother told me: It takes a lot to improve your life, but it takes a second to screw it up. So think before you act.

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Child Abuse Story From No Name

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Oct 01, 2008
Birthday greetings...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

We're the same age, No Name...at least we will be sometime this month. Thank you for sharing your story here. All too often we hear horror stories about foster families; it is so heartwarming to read about a truly wonderful one. They were probably instrumental in helping you overcome the terrible adversity you faced, and as such, you ensured the cycle of abuse was broken. Congratulations on that front! You have much to be proud of.

An early "Happy Birthday" to you, No Name. I hope you love your fifties as much as I do.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Oct 21, 2008
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by: No name

Thanks for the birthday wish,,,you too. I've just wanna you to know I have read all the abuse stories on your site, and wanna to inform you My heart went out to all of them. I never knew there was so many and so much worse then mine...and I thought my mine was bad...God bless them all and keeping it together as hard as it is. Every stories I read my thoughts came back to a question each time...Why did they get return to those so call grown-ups after being taken away...knowing how they are...all the stories I went through helped alot...knowing I was not the only one...either if It did feel like it. I'm good...I know it will never go away, but we are strong and We will make it...we were made strong through the abuse...and we are still here without our so call parents. We live through HELL...they may throught they broke us...but we don't stay down...Well...good luck to all and may Our "parents " burn in Hell...I Know my will. Believe me I'm not really bitter...its something my brothers and I say to each other...what I hear HE isn't doing to good. THATS TO BAD. I feel for him....yea right. Anyway thanks for listening.

Oct 22, 2008
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by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I'm so glad you were able to find some solace in reading the stories of others. I understand how it can be comforting to know that you are not alone; and you really aren't, No Name...No Name is so impersonal...I'll just call you dear, even if we are the same age.

Thank you for taking the time to write with an update. Take care of yourself the way no one ever has, dear. You are most definitely worth it.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Oct 23, 2008
No Name
by: Anonymous

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Darlene Barriere
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Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Oct 23, 2008
No Name
by: Anonymous

I like this site...it reminds me how strong we are...how we fight to stay in this world with all the stuff we went through as children...sometimes we get down...but it nice to know we are not alone and there is otheers who are fighting to be have a normal...whatever that is...when I read the stories I see how strong we are...how we fight to stop ourselves being like the monsters...we have are down moments...I do...but the stories help me to see I'm not alone....like I said before I would have never guess at this time with all the help out there it is still so BAD and going on...When I get down (I think its normal)sometimes it help to remember. There is others like me, then I pray for them and I was being selfish pitying myself who are still out there that needs help.
One day maybe there will be an end to this...but not in my life time I guess...all we can do is give our support to them and hope they get help....they are not alone...there is help. You don't have to answer this...like your site...theres a reason for everything we just don't know what...in time I guess we will. God bless and good luck!

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