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by Name Undisclosed
(USA)

I Don't Know...
I'd rather not say my name. I was sexually abused by my uncle when I was 14. I am now 15 and still having nightmares of what this man did to me.

On New Year's Eve (2008) my uncle came into my room around 3 a.m., drunk as can be, and lay in my bed with me. Him being my drunk uncle, I thought he was just going to sleep so I thought nothing of it. But then he started touching my shoulders...I moved a little, pretending to almost wake up for him to stop. But then he would start up again...he started touching my breasts, and then he startled me when he forced me on my back (my uncle is one of the strongest in my family).

He quickly grabbed hold of my arms-wrists, and covered my mouth with his other hand. He whispered in my ear, "You make a sound, I will make you regret it." I started to cry with fear and from being so scared after he said that, but I did what he said, and he raped me. I was so scared. I don't think I was even able to scream. I can't remember how he got my clothes off, but he did. I wonder if it's possible to be so scared that you can't move. It felt like forever. He was so drunk. It was so painful. All I could think was why is he doing this to me?

This man stole my virginity away and now I feel like crap. I feel like nothing. I'm worth nothing. I don't know what to do anymore. Sometimes I can't even sleep. I haven't told anyone. They wouldn't believe me any way. Everybody loves him. They would never take my side. They would just call me a liar...I don't know what to do. I didn't want the whole world to know this. Just you.

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Jul 04, 2008

TELL someone you trust...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Just for the record, you are NOT nothing and you are NOT worthless; you are precious and smart and articulate and worthy of being loved and nurtured and kept safe from harm and of being believed. Your uncle is responsible here, definitely NOT YOU. And trust me when I say that drunkenness is no excuse. Your uncle's threat was spineless; he's a coward and a child molester. He sexually assaulted you. You CAN'T keep this to yourself. You MUST tell someone, otherwise this will eat you up and you will continue to have sleepless nights and nights with nightmares.

If you're not convinced that telling your parents would result in being believed—and they SHOULD believe you—then talk to a school counsellor, or a teacher, or another trusted adult. Consider contacting Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453). They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, but they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose what your uncle did to you. At the very least, contact these people for support. Don't live alone with this. You deserve better than that. But only you can make the decision to disclose and get help for yourself. Treat yourself better than your sex offending uncle treated you. TELL someone!

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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Jul 04, 2008
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Just for the record, you are NOT nothing and you are NOT worthless; you are precious and smart and articulate and worthy of being loved and nurtured and kept safe from harm and of being believed. Your uncle is responsible here, definitely NOT YOU. And trust me when I say that drunkenness is no excuse. Your uncle's threat was spineless; he's a coward and a child molester. He sexually assaulted you. You CAN'T keep this to yourself. You MUST tell someone, otherwise this will eat you up and you will continue to have sleepless nights and nights with nightmares. If you're not convinced that telling your parents would result in being believed—and they SHOULD believe you—then talk to a school counsellor, or a teacher, or another trusted adult. Consider contacting <a href="http://www.childhelp.org/get_help" target="_"blank ref="NOFOLLOW">Child Help</a> at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453). They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, but they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose what your uncle did to you. At the very least, contact these people for support. Don't live alone with this. You deserve better than that. But only you can make the decision to disclose and get help for yourself. Treat yourself better than your sex offending uncle treated you. TELL someone! Darlene Barriere Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator Author: <a href="http://www.child-abuse-effects.com/my-story-of-abuse.html">On My Own Terms, A Memoir</a>

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Jul 08, 2008

I believe you, I believe you, oh boy, I BELIEVE YOU!!!!!!!!!!
by: Francine

I hate your uncle...for you because he is...despicable, disgusting, destructive...

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What he did to you is so disgusting and wrong! I am and will always be on your side and I strongly suggest that you seek counselling as well as therapy. Remember, no matter what anyone thinks about your so-called uncle, I will always take your side and be there for you. Be strong and I wish you all the best! Take care, sweetie!

Jul 09, 2008

You're still a virgin and so much more
by: Anonymous

First off, congrats for having the courage to post here- it's tough as anything putting yourself out there and a testament to just how strong and brave you are.

Second of all, you're wrong about one thing- that monster you trusted might have raped you, but you're still very much a virgin and will be until you choose otherwise. And when the time comes and ou meet that incredibly lucky guy who sees the amazzing and beautiful woman he has and you two take that step, he'll not only know how special your REAL first time was, but also how big a step it is for you and appreciate it even more.

Last of all, this might sound harsh but you're only worthless if you want yourself to be. Darlene's so right that you are so very special, but ultimately the person who has to see it in the end is you. If you choose to see yourself as worthless then that's how you'll be- but every times you choose that he wins! Every time you let yourself feel like nothing, he rapes you again. Every time you tell yourself that you're nothing- he rapes you again.

I can't begin to imagine how scary it must have been to have had someone so close terrorise you and violate you in that way- to have someone physically overpower you like that and physically violate you like that. But the physical battle is over- the battleground has changed to your mind. The thing about your mind is that there you're in control and while the demons seem so huge and so overwhelming- it's ultimately all smoke and mirrors in what seems like a war of attrition that will never ends.

Let's look at the proof here- you've taken an amazing step and posted here and in doing so, you've shown the courage to speak out. You've already proved that when you face your demons head on, they'll be no match for the amazing, courageous and beautiful woman you are.

We all believe you here- anyone who's even been remotely involved with an abusive situation can see your wounds a mile off- they'll believe you like we do. I know how hard it can be with family too- sometimes you just freeze up and at 29, I still feel like a scared little 6 year old boy around mine (my current emotional abuse problem going all the way back to childhood is also the family favorite) when it looks like the abuse might rear its ugly head again.

Take your power back and tell someone! If not your mother, your school counsellors- not only will they believe you but they'll take action on your behalf if you were a minor when it happened.

Look around you- you'll find support everywhere if you look for it- just like you did here. Remember you're only ever as alone as you want to be. Everyone here has your back!

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First off, congrats for having the courage to post here- it's tough as anything putting yourself out there and a testament to just how strong and brave you are. Second of all, you're wrong about one thing- that monster you trusted might have raped you, but you're still very much a virgin and will be until you choose otherwise. And when the time comes and ou meet that incredibly lucky guy who sees the amazzing and beautiful woman he has and you two take that step, he'll not only know how special your REAL first time was, but also how big a step it is for you and appreciate it even more. Last of all, this might sound harsh but you're only worthless if you want yourself to be. Darlene's so right that you are so very special, but ultimately the person who has to see it in the end is you. If you choose to see yourself as worthless then that's how you'll be- but every times you choose that he wins! Every time you let yourself feel like nothing, he rapes you again. Every time you tell yourself that you're nothing- he rapes you again. I can't begin to imagine how scary it must have been to have had someone so close terrorise you and violate you in that way- to have someone physically overpower you like that and physically violate you like that. But the physical battle is over- the battleground has changed to your mind. The thing about your mind is that there you're in control and while the demons seem so huge and so overwhelming- it's ultimately all smoke and mirrors in what seems like a war of attrition that will never ends. Let's look at the proof here- you've taken an amazing step and posted here and in doing so, you've shown the courage to speak out. You've already proved that when you face your demons head on, they'll be no match for the amazing, courageous and beautiful woman you are. We all believe you here- anyone who's even been remotely involved with an abusive situation can see your wounds a mile off- they'll believe you like we do. I know how hard it can be with family too- sometimes you just freeze up and at 29, I still feel like a scared little 6 year old boy around mine (my current emotional abuse problem going all the way back to childhood is also the family favorite) when it looks like the abuse might rear its ugly head again. Take your power back and tell someone! If not your mother, your school counsellors- not only will they believe you but they'll take action on your behalf if you were a minor when it happened. Look around you- you'll find support everywhere if you look for it- just like you did here. Remember you're only ever as alone as you want to be. Everyone here has your back!

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Jul 26, 2008

tell someone
by: Anonymous

I too was abuse by my uncle at the age of 14. it only happened once and i thought no one would believe me, so i told no one. i am now 23 yrs old and regret it every day of my life. i found out that he just got arrested for molesting my cousin and as it turns out many others. had i said something 9 yrs ago i could have saved so many others from going through what i went through. don't try to keep this a secret. you did nothing wrong. i have been in therapy for a year now just trying to deal with the guilt i feel for not saying anything then, and now i find out that it has happened to so many others. tell someone. someone will believe you. if no one believes you, at least you tried to say something and maybe people will be a little more suspicious of him. maybe there are others out there that he has done this to that will come forward if you do. chances are your not the first. tell someone and try to get help. don't hold it in like i did, because the affects of that later on are something i wouldn't wish on anyone.

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