Child Abuse Story from Mimi

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Child Abuse Story from Mimi

by Mimi
(California, USA)

I'm not really sure if I am abused, but whenever my father gets mad or frustrated, he yells at me and blames things on me and my mom. He doesn't like it when my mom makes contact with her family, especially her mother. Sometimes if he gets mad enough he hits her and leaves big bruises on her. Whenever I ask him something about school and he tries to explain to me and I still don't understand he gets mad at me and hits me on my head and kicks me. He also spanks me with anything pole-like and hard and leaves me with bruises. Once he got really mad and grabbed a fly swatter and hit me with the metal end on my head leaving a bleeding welt. It is discipline but I wonder if it's going over the edge.

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Feb 12, 2009

TELL someone...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Mimi, there is a HUGE difference between discipline and causing harm. Whenever a parent uses enough force to cause an injury—in your case, a bleeding welt—it is going over the edge, as you put it. And worse is the fact that your father hit you in the head, which is completely inappropriate and very dangerous. Discipline is intended to teach right from wrong, not cause harm and injury. Talk to a trusted teacher or your school counsellor or a friend's parent about what you are facing at home.

But it's not just physical abuse you are dealing with, Mimi. You are witnessing spousal violence, a form of emotional abuse called terrorizing that can have—and likely already has had—a profound impact on you.

Another resource for you are the professionally trained counsellors at Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453). They will listen and offer options, and they are staffed 24/7. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process if that's the direction you decide to go.

Mimi, don't ever lose sight of the fact that you DO NOT deserve to be mistreated. What you DO deserve is dignity, respect, love and nurturing. There are people out there who want to help, but you have to reach out to them first.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Feb 12, 2009

No, it's not discipline
by: Francine

Mimi, what your dad did to you is not discipline; IT IS ABUSE AND NOTHING LESS. You must tell someone before it's too late! Don't wait too long!

Feb 13, 2009

tell someone
by: Anonymous

He hasn't any reason to be physically hitting you or your mom, you love your dad, thats why it is hard to turn him in and sometimes we fear that it will only make things worse, he needs help. you should be getting a kiss on your head from your dad and not a hit.please tell someone, like a teacher.

Feb 13, 2009

Discipline Doesn't Injure
by: Linda Settles

Dear Mimi,
Discipline is administered for the benefit of the child. Abuse is an act of rage or revenge. Discipline, though not pleasant to endure, leaves one feeling loved. Abuse leaves marks on the body--or the heart--and leaves one feeling unworthy or used. Discipline promotes personality and character growth. Abuse produces anguish and sorrow. Discipline is necessary to human development. Abuse hinders mental and emotional development.

You be the judge, Mimi. Have you been disciplined--or abused? Abuse leaves wounds on the heart and soul that may take a lifetime to heal. Don't take those wounds, Mimi. Take Darlene's advice. Stop the abuse today.

Love,
Linda

Feb 14, 2009

the answer to the question....
by: touched2mysoul

The answer to your question "is this abuse?" the fact that you are asking or thinking about that it might be makes it abuse. I sincerely believe that those who have experienced abuse know that something is not right with what they have experienced. The heart and soul of a person recognizes ill treatment of the spirt.
Tell someone... tell someone ... tell someone and if they wont listen then tell someone else .. your spirt, heart and soul deserve help.
My thoughts are with you

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