Child Abuse Story From Mike

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Child Abuse Story From Mike

by Mike
(New York, USA)

Spanked at school:
I went to parochial school from grade 1 through 8, and my worst experiences were in the 7th grade. We were taught by the brothers at that point, and although spankings were given from time to time all through the grades by both the nuns and lay teachers, the brother in the 7th grade really took advantage of me. I didn't realize what he was doing until years later. I had gotten into trouble writing something on the back of a classmates jacket with chalk that included a curse word. Another classmate turned me in and the brother told me to stay after school. He told me he was going to send me home with a note describing what I had done, and this terrified me because my mother always told me that a note for bad behavior in school meant the strap was going to be used. I pleaded with him to the point where he asked me what would happen when I got home. When I told him I would get a whipping with the strap he started to ask for details. He made me describe how I would have to get undressed and lay face down on the bed which really embarrassed me but I had no choice. He was getting off on this but at the time I had no idea. He gave me a choice of being punished in school or a note being sent home, and I opted quickly for the school. When he got up and locked the door from the inside and lowered the shades in the windows I got the feeling that something was very different. He said that since I got it bare at home it would be the same here, which started me blubbering and pleading, but clueless as to what to do. Before I knew it he took the strap off the hook and I was bent over his desk with my pants and underpants down. He gave me a good strapping and I was an emotional mess. The real problem was that this was a green light for him to deal with me this way whenever he thought I deserved it for the rest of the school year. I had a third parent, and being in the 7th grade I sort of accepted it because in those days your parents weren't the only ones who disciplined you, and the nuns and brothers being your parents in school was drilled into your head. I got it from him about 3 or 4 more times before I moved on to the 8th grade, but it wasn't until much later when I realized how much thought and planning went into getting me over his desk.

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Sep 24, 2011

Mike:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

The entire system failed you, as it failed so many during those years. Your parents, in their misguided beliefs about so-called "discipline", set you up for not only physical abuse at school, but sexual abuse as well. You learned that you couldn't trust. You learned that there was no one to turn to, because no one would take the word of a child, and as a result, you learned that children were less than adults. And if you had turned to your parents, you would have gotten even more abuse because of the mindset of your misguided parents. You learned that you had no voice. You learned that were at the mercy of the adults in your life. You learned that you had no choices. You learned that your body was not your own, and that it was subject to the whims of the adults in your life. You are the poster child for all that is wrong with spanking and physical discipline of children. My heart goes out to you, Mike. I too had the type of teacher that this "brother" was, only mine was in grade 1. When she had sent a note home (which she often did) about classroom misbehaviour, she would grill each student the next day about the punishment the child received, asking for all the intimate details, asking if they got their pants taken down, asking how many times they were spanked, and on it went. And she did it in front of all the other students in the class. And she had already lined up each of these students for a bare-bottom paddling in front of the class the day before. It was all I could do not to wet myself when these punishments were happening. Wetting myself would have gotten me bared and the ruler at the front of the class. Other little kids weren't so lucky. It wasn't unusual for her to have a line up of students to paddle. And if that wasn't bad enough, when we the tears came she then made us cry in a bucket she kept in the cupboard, saying she "collected children's tears. We were absolutely terrified all the time. What these teachers were allowed to do to us in the name of discipline was criminal on many levels. I do hope you're in some type of counselling, Mike. Counselling can help you to deal with the affects of such betrayal. You didn't deserve to be abused. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Sep 25, 2011

that happened to me too
by: Scott 1

Hi Mike.

what a long lasting effect school abuse has had on me. Cant count the ways it has crippled mind and soul. If we could scream it as sexual abuse then maybe we would have a chance at charging these perverts. Mine was in front of the whole class. All alone, the only one. Like a sticky perverted peep show she put on for the rest. Breaking me down day after day until I changed. Changed in ways I dont know, dont understand, and cant seem to undo. Death seems the only escape for such memories and if I could see her face today Im sure its smeared with a smile of self satisfaction mired in duty.

You might want to check out Sexual Abuse Under the Guise of Spanking for Discipline ...and ...can spanking lead to or be caused because of the fetish. Sorry Darlene, I cant recall the exact wording of the links. I have been holding my tongue as to not comment on those 2 places as of late. My tongue is near chewed off.

These (smirking)so called people clearly enjoyed undressinging us. These people clearly enjoyed cracking our bared backsides with hand and strap. These people clearing intentionally made it a show for their class to watch. How many of those children, now adults, now have a secret spanking fetish from watching us spanked with our clothes off when they were children. How isnt this NOW viewed as sexual abuse and when will our turn finally come to nail these people to the wall for it.

(-: I guess Im supposed to just let it go.

Thanks Darlene for allowing me to comment, giving me a safe place to comment.

Sep 26, 2011

letting go ain't as easy we still need help to erase memories
by: maurice

I like it very much when Darlene in her resepcecting, valueing, affirming, loving, each of her visitors for being so brave and having the courage to tell their abuse years as it was: When I read I hope you are receiveing some form of counselling for all you had to take in the name of discipline from your parents, teachers etc: Knowing I am not alone in my feelings and the effects I suffered in being spanked, beaten in this way under the disguise of discipline: Warped minds because it was done to them they knew no better than to ruin their child/adolecent childhood by humiliating and physically abusing their own children: When my female friends told me they used to be spanked/beaten in this way I often wondered was it more damageing on them: I guess the male, matcho, clown image game out: How silly of me when I think of it now: Sure the effects, the humiliation were as damageing for all of us: The times it happened me when other boys were in the office receieving and undressed had the greatest effect on me: Thanks to you Darlene I have moved on: I hope Mike, Scott both of you like-wise because we can learn from Darlene how she took back her power and has empowered all of her visitors in her persoanl and heart comments to each of us: Spanking was a degrading form of so called discipline one's dignity was invaded very publically when we were so inooncent, vunerable, maturing, exposed to paddle's belt or whatever with our most sacred and private exposed to a pervert or sicko of an adult, control freak: Hi we are all amzing NOW the architects of our own destiny: have a healthy mind in a healthy body: I sure believe this has helped me: I'M SPECIAL: I LOVE ME: I'M UNIQUE AND UNREPEATABLE: I am happy, successful in living my life to the full letting all my spankings drift into oblivian: Oh yes, they pop up every so often but I bury them immediately by thinking positive constuctive thoughts and getting out into the open to be truly me expressing my new found freedom: It has been a greater expression since I related my story with Darlene and her safe haven site: Remarakable Vision Darlene: Thank You

Oct 26, 2011

Just a thought.
by: Anonymous

A friend of mine goes to a private Catholic school where beatings and whatnot are still the primary means of "discipline." As we all know, what was done to you was not discipline, but abuse. I know from experience that any kind of abuse, especially in this form, are humiliating and degrading. I agree with the fact that the system has failed you. Not only that, but your parents idea that humiliating and degrading their children will actually discipline them is completely bogus. I hope that as you grow older, and even now, you will know that it is inappropriate, and that there are many better ways to discipline children. I wish the best for you. And I am sure that you are a wonderful, amazing person, and that you will only get better with age.

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