Child Abuse Story From Maurice
by Maurice
(Waterford, Ireland)
Childhood/Schooldays Spanking/Beating:
I am a first time reader of Darlene's website, which I came accros this morning while browsing sites to find out if being physically abused as a child has it's long term effects. Me, I am 62 years of age, a single male, an only child of a single mum, born 5/9/1946.
She was a good mother and cared for me in our small cottage in the countryside of Waterford. She never beat me, but showered a mother's love on me all her life until she died 7 years ago at 88.
My first experience of a physical abuse was when a neighbour beat me and his son with his belt across our tiny bottoms. He took me down to the front room in the cottage and told me to drop my trouser/pants, bare immediately not wearing u-pants. He tucked up the tails of my shirt over his knees and beat and beat for a long time with his hand then stood me up, standing me sideways and began using his belt on my very bruised and tender bottom for a long time, me screaming and yelling. His son received the same beating. I never was beaten again while at home. My mam accepted this man beating me as being okay, that I did something bold. She nursed my bottom for weeks after. I went to a Boarding school when I was eleven. I was beaten regularly by the dean of discipline, as were all the other boys at this school. He would take me to his office, stand me in the corner, would say undo your buttons, my pants would fall to my ankles he would place a chair in the center of the room and call me over. As I shuffled, my front was on display. Then he placed me over his knees and used his hand, ruler, leather, many shapes and thickness one's as I got older. Right up to 17 and half years I was beaten in this way: touching my toes, over a bar style stool, over the end of his bed. Mostly over the stool and touching my toes displaying my genitals to his view each time I bend down with legs apart. For years I accepted this like most of the boys. That was the way then and it was okay. Only 12 years ago I acknowledged I was abused physically by this man. I have mixed feelings about the whole concept of spanking and being spanked. Thank you for allowing me to share my story.
Maurice
Note from Darlene: Spanking of ANY kind, Maurice, is an act of violence. When we accept spanking of any kind, we say that it is okay to strike a child. I find it so amazing that as a society we accept that it's okay to hit (backside or elsewhere) someone smaller and without defenses; yet we would be jailed for striking someone our own size and then charged with assault! When we accept that spanking is okay, we must also have to accept the mental consequences to the child, which are the side effects that spanking brings about. I strongly urge you to read the articles on this site on the subject:
The comments for each of the articles may shine a different light on this for you.
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