Child Abuse Story From Lynda
by Lynda
(Australia)
I am the oldest of three girls. We are all close in age. We grew up with an alcholic mother. She wouldn't or couldn't do the things that normal mothers do. Like wash our school uniforms, make our lunches or dinner. I found myself being the mother for my 2 younger sisters. We were given a hard time at school by the other kids. Mostly because our hair was unwashed and our uniforms dirty. I tried my best but I was just a kid who needed her mother.
She was always at the pub. When we got home from school she wouldn't be there and wouldn't arrive home until 10.00pm that night. Always drunk, always swearing and yelling at us. She wasn't one for bringing strange men home, but she did have a couple of relationships with messed up guys. One was an alchohlic like her. The other wasn't but he smoked alot of pot and would deal it as well. He's the one that molested me when I was 11 years old. It went on for about 6 months. Never full intercourse, just touching and stuff. I felt that If I let him do it to me he would leave my sisters alone. I couldn't tell my mum as I was so scared as to what her reaction would be. I thought she would be mad at me so I kept quiet. I was so happy when he moved out. He and mum had a big fight. I don't know what over. But he left and didn't come back.
The child welfare people got wind of what was going on in the house. To this day I don't know who told them, but I'm glad they did. They got people in to help Mum and she agreed to go to rehab as she didn't want to lose us. After she got clean she was a different person. She started to really take care of us and be a good mum. We all went to counselling together. Mum told us she loved us and was so sorry for what she put us through. I never told her about what her ex did. I just want to forget about it, put it to the back of my mind and pretend it didn't happen. Sadly my mother passed away 5 years ago. She had alot of health problems due to her years of alchohol abuse. It makes me happy that I had those years with her when she was a good mum. I don't know what became of her ex. I feel guilty knowing I should of said something as he has most likely gone on to hurt some other girl. I hate myself for being a coward. I'm doing Ok, but my sisters have had problems during the years. I have always been so protective of them and still am. We are all adults now with families of our own.
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