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Child Abuse Story From Ludmila M

by Ludmila M
(USA)




My adoptive father sexually abused me: 
I was adopted few days before i turned 12. My adoptive father started to come to my room (which was on the third floor, my brother was on the third floor too but away from my room, so he could not here anything. No one else was there) he would touch me between my legs, touch my butt and my breasts as he made me touch him. I am russian and did not even know english but (swim, hungry, and bathroom) so i could not say anything at all. Even when i did start to speak english, i did not want to say anything because i did not want to go to group home and be all by myself again (by the way if your going threw same as me, do not bite your tongue and keep hush. It's only going to eat you up and ruin most of your life. So speak up..PLEASE) He kept doing this for about 2 or 3 years tell i began speaking english and began to be out and sleeping over at friends. I am 20 now, I have a son who is 8 months old and i am married. But, I still struggle and i still have a lot of problems because of what my so called "adoptive father" did to me. Honestly, for a while i thought maybe it was my fault and this happened to me because i asked for it some how (but come on..i was 12, wore baggy clothing, did not speak english..how could i have asked for it....oh and by the way do not forget that he was a lawyer) Anyways, I am about to do something about it (if it is not too late) I am going to take him to court and even if i loose, at list i will know and feel better that i did do something about it. (GIRLS, IF YOUR GOING THREW THIS DO NOT KEEP HUSH, GO OUT THERE AND DO SOMETHING-NO NOT ILLEGAL-CALL THE COPS OR CPS AND TAKE THEIR PERVERTED SICK A**ES TO COURT)




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Child Abuse Story From Ludmila M

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Mar 02, 2010
Ludmila:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing your story and your all-important message with my visitors and me. You are right that what happened to you was NOT your fault. And it wasn't because you wore baggy clothes and couldn't speak English; it's because fault ALWAYS lies on the shoulders of the offender because the offender CHOSE to offend. It is NEVER the child's fault, no matter what. I applaud that you are taking the step of making your offender accountable for what he did to you. Regardless of the outcome, always know that what you are doing is the right thing. And always remember that you know the truth. You know what really happened.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir


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