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Child Abuse Story From Lorahli

by Lorahli
(California, USA)




I never expected to find somewhere this open to share my story. I've truthfully never told anyone this before. I'm nervous. Before I start, I'd just like to let you know that these are things I'm still going through. I'm only fourteen.

On my twelfth birthday, my father, who'd been in jail for nearly four years, was released. He was a druggie, and even after such a long time in confinement, he still felt the urge to use. My party was small, just my mother, my brother, and my two best friends, S-- and T--. My presents were humble and I had a fairly good time, until HE came home. When he arrived, he dismissed my friends, sent my brother to bed, and turned off the soft music that had been playing in the background. All I could do was look up at the man I used to know, he looked angry. He began to break things, ripping my birthday cards, stomping on my new CDs, everything was ruined. He dragged my mother by the arm into their bedroom, all the while she was screaming at him-no, BEGGING him- to let her go, I ran after them and watched in horror as my father raped my mother. I was paralyzed. He made eye contact with me the entire time, never faltering. When he was done, he winked at me as if to say, "You're next." I regained the feeling in my legs and dashed in the direction of the door, before I could make it, I felt a crack on the back of my head. I fell to the floor, groaning. He grabbed my hair and forced me face-to-face with his crotch, I was terrified and couldn't possibly fathom why a man would do this his own daughter. I gagged as he raped my mouth.




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Child Abuse Story From Lorahli

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Jun 29, 2011
Lorahli:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

He's not just a druggie and a rapist, he's crossed over into child sexual abuse. The man is a sex offender. The fact that you're still living in that abusive environment and that your mother seems ill-equipped to deal with his abuse and won't step up to protect you tells me you're still in danger. Please contact two different organizations: Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose the abuse. And you need to disclose the abuse. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childhelp.org/get_help

The second is the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). They have advocates available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week who can provide crisis intervention, escape planning, information and referrals to victims or anyone calling on their behalf. Since your mother isn't stepping up, I suggest you make the call. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.ndvh.org/

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Jun 29, 2011
Please tell
by: Anonymous

Lorahli, your so-called dad is a really sadistic beast and he should go back to jail for all those terrible crimes that he committed against you and your mother because you, your mom and even your brother did nothing wrong. Oh, and to brutally destroy your birthday presents and ruin your birthday is a really cowardly thing to do. You are not to blame for his sadistic, disgusting, ignorant behavior; he is to blame because he chose to abuse you. You were the child; he was the adult; he had all the power and only misused it over you, so the sooner you tell, the better. Please tell someone you really trust and keep telling until he/she will finally listen to you and help you.

Jun 30, 2011
It might feel scary...
by: AnonymousT

..but PLEASE call those hotlines.
You have to tell to get it to stop, he may be your father but more importantly - he's hurting you. You don't deserve this.

Jun 30, 2011
You are one very Brave Young Lady: Always believe in YOURSELF
by: maurice

Lorahli: Well done: you searched for and found this very safe haven site to allow yourself to be brave: Have the COURAGE to speak your true honest feelings: Darlene has taken your story into her heart and is speaking to you personally in all she wrote to YOU in her comment: Helpful, affirming words; supportive and advising words: You are highly inteeligent: Stay in education: begin to seek out the help Darlene knows will empower you to begin to put it all in perspective that you wrote: Only counsellors/therapists can make sense of the question you ask: They will: Why authorities would allow this brute, druggie, beast of a man back near you is a mystery to me: Your mother seems incapable of having the courage to barr him from the house so you could grow up in a safe invironment: You deserve the best: you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity: You need to be loved and cherished: Hi on sure way to have at least one/two people in your life your own age and gender is to have friends you can trust: So a friend your own age and gender that you can tell all your girlie/adolecent feelings to: Who will help you be safe in building and forming relationships: who will stand by you: Love, honour, value and respect your own body and yourself so that you will make sure others will do likewise: Stand up for your own self respect and dignity or you could fall for anything in a relationship: One sure way to do that is to have a healthy mind in a healthy body: So get out and about with your friends, fellow students, like-minded people your own age and gender (I can't stress this enough) You'll make real and true friends for life if you do and have loads of aquainatances for life: there is safety in numbers LORAHLI; be gentle and kind to yourself: Hug and cuddle your body from time to time; Oh yes, look in the mirror and love that beautiful and wonderful me person looking out at you: Have a true friend or two: you know the rest: Read Darlene's comment Act on her woman's heart advice: I WILL: I CAN: I MUST: BECAUSE I AM WORTH IT:

Jun 30, 2011
yeah he an animal an he be sorry sorry i hope it was worth it because now he really goin g to locked up forever screw drugs he is a drug its more thatn that he an animal
by: Anonymous

jail back to jail for that nut back to jail an this time throw away the key a monster screw him jail didnt teach him good now he go to jail forever you go to www womens law ,org and find a lawyeryou an your mom please do this he is an animal nut like moderator say an he needs long time jail report this to watch dog too is he a pedofile why he is so report him too them too
please www watchdog an rainn site aske them how do you document what he did ruine him put him away be strong call the jail he released from tell them make a plan where you go an mom an leave then the cops come get him i hope you be ok he sound like a animal need jail an forever put away a nut and then that birthday you celebrate this time again when he gone for good you can do it , i hope so an your mom get a lawyer

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