Feeling the full impact of your emotions... by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster
Sandra, your feelings are the story. Your feelings are the effects of child abuse. Your feelings are not only important, they are critical for your healing and recovery process. So...you are going about your process exactly as you need to. I'm honoured that you have chosen to go through this process on my site. Keep writing, Sandra. Putting your thoughts and feelings down in print, especially the truly honest ones—like the one above—will eventually help you to sort through those thoughts and feelings. As they rise to the surface, you will be in a better position to make sense of them. And as you begin to make sense of them, as you allow yourself to feel the full impact of the emotions, you will find yourself suddenly letting them go; not because you choose to let them go, but because they just...leave. Keeping them hidden is no longer an option.
As lousy as you may feel at this point, Sandra, trust me when I tell you that it does get better. When I was in therapy, dealing with the avalanche of previously sunken emotions from my own vicious and tumultuous childhood, I thought I was going to be buried alive as those emotions fought to get to the surface. As they tried to rise up and expose themselves I fought to keep them buried because they were too much to deal with...but that only served to stop me from breathing. When I finally allowed myself to feel, really feel the emotions, without reservation, knowing I was now safe from further harm (after all, I had already survived the worst of it), that's when they finally released me. They wouldn't release me until I stopped resisting them. That was key to my happiness and freedom, Sandra. I believe it is key to yours.
Thank you again for sharing more of your story with my visitors and me.
Darlene Barriere Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
May 16, 2009
it is hard, very hard, as you make great strides the effects return. by: maurice
Oh Sandra Lonely heart 8 those who abuse don't ever or is it part of their realize the long term effects their abusing causes us. It lies dorment in us until we get a place like Darlene's site to open up and trustingly feel safe telling our story of abuse. Great you share your latest feelings with her and her many visitors who feel and emphatise with you. Be Brave, Be strong for yourself I know you are and will be, I want you to really LOVE yourself. be gentle and kind and share with your closest of trusting friends around you as well as Darlene's site you daily emotions and feeling around your abuse, But let go my friend as far as that is possible for you. Think ahead, think positive thoughts and be hugged by those around making you really feel needed and wanted. Hi get to love that wonderful beautiful person in the MIRROR. era go on to soothe away those not so nice scars of your past from your beautiful body. nice creams available to do that Sandara. Lonely Heart, please try and use anothere word LOving heart of myself.
