Your "liberties" were stolen, not given... by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster
Sandra, you "gave him" NOTHING. He STOLE your "liberties" and innocence and took advantage of your vulnerabilities. You were the child; he was the adult. You were the child; he is the criminal. Don't EVER lose sight of that.
Thank you for sharing even more of your story with my visitors and me. And keep sharing as long as it helps you.
Darlene Barriere Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
Mar 29, 2009
Sandar dear sandra lonely heart 123. by: maurice
How right you are that no one knows what goes on behind closed doors even in a so called family house, home, building. because abuse happens within a building/house the place we all used to call home. As long as I remember and listening to an older generation of mine abuse went on in front of Mothers who were or seemed powerless to do anything about it. were so confused about what real love and husband/ father of her children really meant. The man was the controller because of being the man in the family/home. Oh, oh don't many of us now how the male abused his position. Domestic violence, then abusing his children at every whim in the name of LOVE. Oh sandra thank you for sharing. none of us know what is happening behind closed doors. Yet for my own peace of mind I accept that 85% of family/home life is real and authenti and loving is worked at. Children/teens/adolecents are wonderfully loved. Mammies?daddies at their wits ends at times to accept their differneces and be pationt with each one differnetly because of his/her specialness. Many parents don't find that easy. Where as in the 15/20% were beaten, scolded, abused in one form or another and just had to accept it. Like me with my dean of dicipline, I'm your guardian this is how you'll do as I say. Many Fathers in family played the same game of authority or because he was daddy. That is why you share what you share, Garnny/Mammy just gave her their roll of loving you. The pain you are going through because of the emotional/physiacal or secuall abuse is enormous. Hi, know now, you can begin to love yourself bcause you've made a new eginning to tell people who really love you. Good on you Sandra.
May 25, 2009
Mine by: Not Broken !!!!
Your story is so close to mine. I feel so bad for you. We block alot to forget and there is alot we donot remmeber. We lost so much and things has been taken away. But what we been through can broken us or make us strong. I believe it makes us stronger. We never really know the reason it happens to us. Why people never helped us...only God does. But in time we heal and go on with life. But we learn to keep our eyes open to protect our children when we have them. We know we are not a lone. We are fighters...they can knock us down...but WE WILL BE BACK UP. God bless you and stay strong. There is a reason for evrything...in time we might know why it happen. Maybe to help some other child or someone else that don't understand.
