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Child Abuse Story From Linda

by Linda
(Town Creek, Alabama, USA)

I am a fifty-one year-old woman who has been abused for fifty years. I grew up with a bipolar and drug addicted mother and an alcoholic father. I had ten other siblings. Our sorry parents forced us to live like animals. We slept on ratty blankets on old wooden floors in a three-room house. We ate whatever we could find, like muddy clay off a creek bank or animal feed out in the barn.

My mother had violent outbursts from her mental illness. She would hit us with sticks she broke off of tree limbs, or my daddy's belt.

When I was fourteen, I was raped by an older boy at school. I let him do it, because I thought that was what love was. He raped me several times over the course of a year. Then I became pregnant. My older sister found out, and told me she would beat the hell out me. She told my mother and she beat the hell out of me and made us get married.

After we married, I began a new life of abuse. Spousal abuse. I have lived through fifty years of this. To this day I don't know what normal is.

I have long since separated myself from my family members. I just want to be left alone. The reason I'm writing this is to tell anyone out there living in abusive environments to do something before it is too late. For me it is.

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Jan 30, 2008
It's NEVER too late...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your primitive and violent upbringing certainly set you up for an abusive marriage; but Linda, it's NOT too late to have good things enter into your life. It's NOT too late to find peace and contentment in your life. It's NEVER too late to get out of an abusive environment. As an adolescent, you had no choices. Your parents were beyond cruel to have made you marry your rapist; it was nothing short of emotional battery. As an adult, you have many choices; but you have to want change for change to happen.

Linda, don't give up on the possibility of happiness. You still have many years ahead of you. You have to keep telling yourself that you are worthy and deserving of happiness. You must re-program the long-ago-instilled negative messages you received, and possibly still receive. You have to keep telling yourself that you DO NOT deserve to live in abuse. You have to act in a way that is self-loving and self-respecting. But you need help doing this. You need support and resources.

You see, Linda, I recognize strength when I see it. And I see amazing strength in you. You survived horrendous child abuse. You survived decades of marriage with a sex offender (and god knows what else he's inflicted upon you during that time). You severed the family ties that kept you bound. All of this takes great strength of character and conviction. So please, don't sell yourself short by condemning yourself to a continued life of misery.

If you are still living in spousal abuse, contact your local women's shelter. It could be the first in a series of loving steps you take for yourself.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jan 30, 2008
Sick and twisted
by: Francine

Whatever your hateful parents did to you is wrong because they truly are evil and malicious! Your blissfully cruel parents and your perverted husband should all be ashamed and so should your sister! I am so sorry! If I were your other sister, I would've contacted police on your so-called parents! You want want to try counselling, and then, call the police onyour so-called family! I will pray for you! Take care, Linda. And as for your brutal and malicious parents, brutally forcing you to live like animals, that won't be you, dear!

Feb 15, 2008
its never too late
by: Anonymous

please don't say that! Think about the next fifty years of your life!

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