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Child Abuse Story From Lilly2

by Lilly
(United Kingdom)




"It's your fault."
"You deserve it."
"You should never have been born, you're worthless."

These were just a few of the 'supportive' words the little girl received from her father.
He was not a pleasant man.
In fact, he was horrible.

The abuse started when she was just two years old.
She was small for her age, and unsteady on her feet.
It was all too easy to just say she'd fallen and banged her head.
But it was all lies.

A year later, he suddenly stopped hitting her, and started being a responsible parent.
He might have thought that he could get away with doing it because the little girl would never remember.
But she did.

By the time she was ten, the little girls' family was broke.
Her dad lost his job.
He started drinking again.
And one night, when her mother and sister were out, he hit her.
And it just got worse from there on.

She got regular beatings from him, and often wished she was never born.
As she turned 11, she had started to...develop.
And thus began the sexual abuse.

The little girl was often told how pathetic and worthless she was, how little she deserved the life she had...and she began to believe it.

She stayed as strong as she could in school, mucking around with her friends as she would have done if things were normal.
But they were far from normal.

Pain inflicted that little girl's life, and, at thirteen years old, still does.

How do I know?
Because the little girl is me.

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Child Abuse Story From Lilly2

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Jan 18, 2009
ChildLine...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Lilly, it's not your fault. You are not worthless. You don't deserve to be mistreated in any way. You need help. Please contact ChildLine on 0800 1111. Check out their website at www.donthideit.com for more information.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jan 18, 2009
Such lies...
by: Francine

Lilly, your father is wrong. You don't deserve what he did to you; you are not worthless, you are lucky enough to have been born; whatever he did to you will never ever be your fault. Those lies that he drilled into you are STILL LIES. You might need to get therapy. Tell someone, too, before it's too late. Don't wait too long.

Jan 19, 2009
Lily
by: Anonymous

it isn't fault.
speak up.
you wouldnt want anyone else going through what
you went through.
youre not worthless; prove to him your not.

Jan 26, 2009
:/
by: Aimee (:

Reading this really touched me.
I'm studying child abuse in school, and I myself have been abused.
I choose to speak up about what happened to me.
I did not in any way get sexually abused.
But to hear that someone like you did is horrible.
What your Dad done to you was out of order.
If I had my way he's be in prison.
No matter how much you love your Dad, if you do.
He deserves every bad thing coming to him.
I'm at a young age, I'm 16.
And at the moment I'm in school writing about this.
Speak up about it, if you'd like to contact anyone and speak about what you've been through.
You can always comment back.
You really didn't deserve all that, you honestly didn't.
You're not worthless, not one bit.
I used to think the same.
Now that I've moved in with my Dad things have got a lot better.
I was physically abuse by my own Mother and Grandfather.

Much Love (:
<3

Note from Darlene: Aimee, I know you want to be helpful here, but I have a strict policy of not allowing email addresses or any other person information, either in the content of submissions or in comments. This policy is to ensure your safety, since there is no way to know who is visiting this site. I trust you understand my position on this. And keep up the great work with your supportive comments; they are very much appreciated.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jan 26, 2009
To Andrea:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Andrea, due to a system glitch, your comment to Lilly was lost. If you'd care to re-post your comment, I'll be happy to approve it so that Lilly can read it. My sincere apologies for the inconvenience.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jan 29, 2009
Sorry
by: Erin

im sorry that happened to you

Note from Darlene Erin, I know you want to help Lilly, and I applaud that; but including your phone number is against the rules on this site. You do not know who is reading these pages, and since I have no control over who does read these pages, email addresses and phone numbers and any other personal information that could lead to a pedophile finding one of my young (and yes, even not-so-young) visitors is strictly prohibited. I trust you understand my position on this. Your safety and the safety of all my visitors is too important for me to waver on this issue.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Feb 17, 2009
hunni...
by: Anonymous

hunni i know exactly what yu are going thru... im 19 and yu can make it thru...
i never called childline, but i reli wish that i did,
none of this is yure fault, no matter how much it feels like it is!!! your a child, the fault is on the adult, i know that me saying this may not seem right at this moment in time, but its true, i dont know you, but i bet that you are an amazing girl, with so much to live for, but yu need to see thru this!! please call 0800 1111... it means that yu get to be safe, no more hurt and suffering, freedom, and happyness, and you get to learn whaat real love is...
if yu cant call the fone number, find a teacher at school, or go to a hospital and just tell anybody... this will stop!!!
am praying for yu hunni
xoxox

Mar 19, 2009
Keep reaching out for help
by: Kathie

Lilly,

I know all the advice to reach out and tell someone is a struggle and you may not be successful on your first attempt since the system is not perfect, my advice is to continue to report, the more reports - the better chance you have of rescue. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Be part of the solution and don't let parental threats scare you, there is always someone that will want and respect you. God bless baby and keep us updated.

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