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Child Abuse Story From Lilly S

by Lilly S
(New Jersey, USA)




When i was younger I had a great life! My mom Spoiled me and my sister, we had everything we ever wanted. My mom to us was the best mom ever in the WHOLE world lol.My mom and father had problems. He was an alchohalic and my mom got tired of it eventually. They divorced, My sister and I went on with our lives with our mom and had occasinal visits to my fathers, You know the normal mother father divorce thing.

Any way, My mom re married a great man and my sister and i called him dad, and my father re married as well. All was fine untill we started visiting my father and his New wife. We would stay there on the weekends, go home on mon the normal stuff, so my mom thought. Behind the doors it was hell for my sister and I. My father's NEW wife was horrible. I had to be about 3 or 4 i belive and she use to beat me. Any little thing would make her mad. She eventually had her own children and was very jealouse of my mom and my sister and I. She never touched her own children just me. She never touched my sister as far as i know.

She use to lock my sister and I outside all day and wouldnt give us food, she would make us go to the bathroom in a bucket in the shed. When we were inside we were locked in our rooms. When she would feed us she would cover it in pepper and make us eat every bite. If we didnt she would hit me and force me to. I recall one day she got so mad at me that she dragged me up her wooden stairs by my hair and locked me in a closet. honestlly at the time i just thought it was a small room. I was wrong. I can recall another night she was having a bad bad and took it out on me and during a bad bad thunder and lightning storm and made me stay up all night in a corner in the hallway by her room. I wasnt aloud to move or make one sound.

Still to this day i hate storms they scare me so bad! Anyway my sister came out to get me and lay with me to comfort me and calm me down from crying. My fathers wife i guess came out to see if i was still there and I wasnt. She was mighty mad. She grabbed me and put me back in the corner and yelled at my sister. My father was always way too drunk to notice what was going on. he was so oblivious its amazing someone can be that drunk. Eventually my mom starting noticing the bruses more and more. not the ocasinal bruse here and there. She was furious! She went to my fathers house and lost her mind. My father called her a lier and said she would never touch me and mom showed him my arms and legs and he still to her face called her a lier. My mom went to court and won full custody of my sister and I. My father and his wife were not aloud near us.



After that I was not the happiest little girl. i was always scared of the dark, i was angry all the time. Not at my mom but i think just in general from my fathers wife. My mom sent me to therapy and everything and it helped alot. But one day while we were shopping we ran into my fathers wife and i freaked out i was crying and screaming because i was so scared, that mom said enough! We moved two hours away to a nice country little town and a big house with a huge yard! After that My life was GREAT! The time with my father and his wife were horrible but when i wasnt there My mom made me life amazing! i had a great child hood and i wouldnt change anytihng about it. I think my fathers wife made me a stronger person and made me who i am today. I'm not going to lie im still bitter and still angry but alot stronger. I love my mom for taking that big step and big move for my sister and I, it still brings tears to my eyes. And I love my sister so much for protecting me as much as she could in those bad times.

My family means the world to me and I couldnt ask for a better one. Some advice to anyone who's going threw this right now, stay strong, ASK for help, and speak up!! Dont let anyone bully you. And if you find your way out therapy is a great way to get help. I was stuborn for a while and thought therapy was stupid and would make me weak. But i promisse you, it helps.

God Bless Everyone, and good luck in life. I wish you nothing but LUCK and welness!




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Child Abuse Story From Lilly S

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Apr 18, 2010
Lilly:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your mother is amazing! And so are you! You both did exactly what you needed to do: your mother took all the necessary steps to protect you from harm; you did what you had to do in order to find yourself on the road to healing and recovery. I comment and applaud you BOTH! Thank you for sharing your story and your oh-so-important message with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Apr 20, 2010
A true mother's LOVE is a blessing: Thankfully they are in the majority in our society
by: maurice

Darlene's comment to you Lilly S takes the biscuit, she has offered you in her womans heart felt words the kindest and loving tribute a good mother deserves to be said about her. Your Mammy was the best, (is the best) Sure I know you know that and you always did. Your sister and you are her gifts, her preciousness, her beautiful children for her to LOVE and Cherish forever. You know the difference between your Fathers wife and your mother. She was one bad woman, cruel, sadistic on your beautiful innocence and vunerability. Your bad Daddy was no great shakes either to protect you from her. With all the LOVE around you now slowly as you get older you will distance your fears from you so that they will not effect you. Speak to your mammy about them, she will get you help if she feels that is what is needed to erase them from you mind. You live each day to the full with your Mammy, your sister, your friends especially your special one's. I believe having a healthy mind in a healthy body is a worthwhile gift to each young person. So Lilly S off your bottom, get out and about playing team sports with your own age group. sure your sister will encourage you as you will encourage her. Taking part in sports works wonders for children/teenagers/young adults and even adults so you might encourage your Mammy encourage you to be part of healthy and cultural pursuits. Lilly S you will make lasting friends for life. Always believe in yourself, I will, I can, I must, Simply because I am WORTH IT. My prayers are with you being so brave to write your story on Darlene's site. A safe Haven watched over by a professional woman with a big kind heart for others who have been abused. Thank you Darlene.

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