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Child Abuse Story From Lila

by Lila
(Location Undisclosed)




Mom's boyfriends and dad: 
My mom started dating again she was with a guy named andi for 2 years, since i was 4. She thought he could support us he was mean to my brother he left a scar on my brothers mouth he almost drowned him when they were swimming in a pool, he touched me alot he did other things to me, I didnt say anything though he told me not to, everytime I was left alone with him I got very creeped out, I started having bad nightmeres, teachers at my school thought i was abused, i was quite a strange kid. he always brought me my mom and my brother nice gifts.

My mom had to go to new orleans for about a month in the summer I was 6, she left me and my brother with him, it got very bad then, he wouldnt let me leave the house, he did all this stuff to me, I tried to lock myself in my room, he beat me very badly, I didnt get dinner, he said even worse stuff would happen if i didnt listen to what he said, he always locked the front door and there were gates in the back, i didnt have a key, i wouldnt have the guts to leave anyways, it hurt alot for awhile than i got used to it, i cried everynight in my room, I couldnt cry infront of him. When my mom was supposed to come back he beat me really badly i broke 2 ribs and my arm, I still have some scars.



He ran away, my mom came back and took me to the hostpital she lied her ass off about what happend to me. i blocked alot of this out and it started to come back to me as i got older, it has affected me very negatively in the long run, I tried to live with my dad in 7th grade but he was very mean to me he would throw stuff at me and yell at me I tried to stay out of the house as much as possible, i loved my friends there they were wonderful and i was very popular though, we were mostly very poor and we were always stoned we tripped out on exstacy and hungout with cute highschool guys and 20 yearolds it was wonderful. Now i live with mom and i am unbelivably depressed, i dont get along with most of the girls at my school i sleep over at random guys houses beacuse i hate my house, my mom never has any food our house is creepy, and she still has yucky boyfriends.




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Child Abuse Story From Lila

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Mar 11, 2010
Lila:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You can't do anything to change your mother and the choices she makes, but you sure as heck can make better choices for yourself. You are on a path of destruction, a path that isn't worthy of Who You Really Are. You are worthy of so much more: love, dignity, respect, appreciation, all good things. Please consider contacting one of the hotlines listed on my stories page, depending on where you live, in order to talk to someone confidentially. You deserve so much more than what you are being forced to live with, and what you are bringing into you own life as a way to cope. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Mar 12, 2010
Get away from them! Fast!
by: Anonymous

Lila, please get away from your parents! They didn't deserve to have wonderful children like you and you brother, but most of all, Lila, you certainly didn't deserve to have unloving, uncaring, cruel, ruthless brutes for parents. As for your "mom", I am apparently disgusted by her reaction to one of her slimy boyfriends beating the stuffing out of you after she took you to the hospital; in fact, I hate women who choose men over their children because children should always come first. The sooner you tell someone, the better. Darlene is right. Lila, please tell someone you really trust.

Mar 13, 2010
Why did I write my story? Because I need help.
by: Maurice

Lila, a real question to ask yourself right NOW in your life: Darlene's site is a safe place for you to begin answering that for yourself. Why did I feel the need to write my story? In the privacy of your room you sat down after searching and finding Darlene's Site. You know the reason deep within yourself. Lila, it will take time, but begin today thinking positive thoughts about yourself. Who am I,?? will the real me stand up?? Darlene surely has given you real stepping stones for you to gently step on to begin your journey back to reality of life for you Lila. Always believe in yourself. STOP roaming aimlessly from house to house trying to make sense. Those you are befriending are NOT real or TRUE friends. Don't be used by them. Get a real friend in your life. One who will LOVE you, Value you, respect you, appreciate you in the sharing of your abuse story with them. Will assist you to get real help for you to build up your self-essteem, your self-worth, your dignity, and RESPECT for yourself. Read and make real sense of what Darlene said to you from her heart to you in her comment. Annonymouse spoke from her heart too and said the truth to you. You did not deserve to have such people in your life, one could not call the your parents. Lila, i want what is the very best for you NOW so that you can look in the MIRROR honestly and say I LOVE THAT ME looking out. I am the most important teenager/young adult female child ever birthed. I did not ask to be born into such a home/family. The woman that birthed me was not a real mother. No real mother would allow anyone one especially a man abuse or molest HER child. Your inteeligent Lila, you be the winner, In staying out of that house of horrors don't be drifting aimlessly. There is real help out there for you LILA. You can't get better on your own, talk to a Therapist, a real friend who will hug and love you and want what is best for you. You'll be fine, you'll be the winner over such animals of human beings who abused you. Don't let them ruin your living of life. Change your attiude to yourself, Look in the MIRROR. be gentle and kind to yourself. don't be angry, have love for yourself. Love yourself, love that beautiful body of yours back to it's original beauty before those B's molested it. enjoy showering it, use all the scented soaps, creams, lotions now availabel to soothe away the memories of your molesters and abusers. cuddle and hug it back to your level of acknowledgeing it for what it is for you NOW. let go of the past, (it will take time) but let go. move on from the NOW time of your life. Have a healthy mind in a healthy body. Breath in positivity, breathe out all the negativity you've built up over the years and let go. None of what happened to you was of your doing. It was not my fault, I am not to blame. Now read Darlene's comment to you.

Mar 26, 2010
Proud
by: JJ

You are definatly a wonderful person and i too was sexually abused.Im only fifteen but i feel that i should tell you how proud i am of you and i dont even know you I wont fill up a comment box with what happended when i was six like i did with others. But i did have a similar experience with my moms boyfriends but a lot less sexual as im a boy but a lot of her boyfriends were mean and shouted and threw stuff at her and minipulated me to get at her which i proudly refused to do as i love my mom and she would never do anything to me as im sorry to hear what your parents did to you. You now have a new fat dorky admirer (not stalker theres a difference)

Your new admirer, JJ

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