Child Abuse Story From Leslie

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Child Abuse Story From Leslie

by Leslie
(Location Undisclosed)

i was sexually abused by my step father when i was a child.it went on for about 6 or 7 yrs till he died.i finally told my mother years later about the abuse and she replied good people can do bad things.i don`t like how she stuck up for him instead of trying to protect me. i`m also upset that this person will never be held responsible for the pain they have caused to me.it`s now been 10 yrs since the abuse and i have a 2 yr old. and since i have had my daughter i have been a lot more parnoid and untrusting of everyone.i dont know what i can do to overcome the pain and parnoia. i`m still way to nervous and scared to talk to anyone face to face.

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Jul 29, 2011

Leslie:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I learned a very long time ago that the only way to deal with what happened to us as child abuse victims is to go through the process of dealing with what happened. I know that sounds simplistic, but there is no circumventing the process. No way to just say to oneself, I am going to forget what happened and move on with my life. And it's not at all unusual for paranoia to enter into the picture when one has a child to care for. After all, it's now your job to care for this little person; and given what happened to you, there is fear that you might not be able to. The difference however, is that you are aware and you will not repeat the mistakes that your mother made with you. You WILL stand up for your daughter. You WILL protect her. You WILL believe her if she ever discloses that something happened. Keep the lines of communication open with your daughter. Keep the talks you have with her calm and relaxed. A good way to talk to young children is to do it while colouring. This opens up the side of the brain that allows for easy communication, and sets a relaxed atmosphere. Talk to your daughter on an age-appropriate level about good and bad touches. Tell her that you will always be there for her to talk to you. And then, ALWAYS be there for her to talk to you. And understand that there is no one talk; it's an ongoing discussion that will change as your child matures. And for your Self, please consider some form of counselling in order to help you deal with the abuse you endured as a child, but also to deal with the betrayal and abandonment of your mother. These two issues are definitely tied together. Getting help for your Self and getting mentally and physically healthy are the best gifts you can ever give to your child, and their mother. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Jul 30, 2011

The Horror
by: Anonymous

Leslie, I can't believe that your mom would abandon you to the so-called care of that sick pervert of a dad and allow him to offend you everyday...how dare she! Shame on her for running away from you all the time instead of protecting you from that beast! I'm just as disgusted by her uncaring apathy towards you; I hate women who choose men over their own children because children should always come first. Her job is to protect you and she abandoned that job! You are not to blame for their disgusting behavior; they are to blame because they chose to offend you. You were the child; they were the adults; they had all the power and only misused it over you. I hope that you're in a safe place now and that you try counselling.

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