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Child Abuse Story From Lauren2

by Lauren
(North Carolina, USA)




"So wrong, never right" 
Many things I learned from a very young age, the one thing most was that I could never be right nor wrong. At age 5 I recall being tied in horrid uncomfortable positions to keep me from moving. My arms would be bent, so my hands was to my face, my arm would be tied in that position with ropes for hours and hours. I was not allowed to sleep in a room or on a bed. I had to sleep on a hardwood floor with nothing but newspaper and cockroaches roaming around me. Then as I got older I would always be screamed at as soon as I got home from school. My mom would drink a lot and have many men over who all would get drunk. A few times this one older man would always come over and my mom would leave me alone with him. He would say he wanted to give me back massages (I had scoliosis and bad pains) but he would take any kind of muscle rub we had and rub it (down there) and I would always be burning in pain. I told my mom and she said that I didnt know what burning was and she has lit up the gas stove. She would place knives in the flame until the knife turned red and she would hold it on my arms. I still have scars from that. Later on I would not be allowed to eat anything but potatoes and peanut butter (I would have to eat them together) I was forced to hand feed my mother all kinds of good smelling foods. She would make me drink olive oil (to fatten me up without be allowed to eat) it was pure hell! THe abuse didnt end until I found the strength to move out at age 19! I had my own job (and stopped giving my mom all the money I made) she was taking every penny I had made until I stood my ground. My abuse was all of the above. What hurts the most for me is the emotional abuse. Being yelled at, never good enough for her, being timed to do chores, being laughed at and made fun of, not being believed about sexual abuse, never any comfort at all..not a single hug or I love you.




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Mar 27, 2010
Lauren:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your mother was twisted in her way of thinking. She wasn't in her right mind; so for you to continue to believe the lies she convinced you of, is to take the word of someone without any credibility. You now have the power to re-write all those negative and untrue messages you received. You ARE good enough. You ARE special. You ARE worthy of dignity and respect. You ARE worthy of being believed. You ARE worthy of LOVE. Keep telling yourself that because that IS the truth, and then love and hug YOURSELF. Don't wait for your mother to do that for you. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Mar 27, 2010
The sooner, the better...Darlene is right!
by: Anonymous

Lauren, your brute of a mother should be ashamed of herself! What she did to you is truly cruel and sadistic. That loser scum of a mother should be locked up in prison with her slimy boyfriends together, so the sooner you tell someone, the better. Darlene is right. Lauren, please tell someone you really trust until they will isten to you and help you. Good luck!

Mar 27, 2010
your story
by: dana

This story makes me soo mad! I'm glad it has a happy ending, though and I wish you luck in whatever you want to accomplish in the future. I had scoliosis as a child and when I was 12, I had the surgery. Did you have to have surgery?

Mar 27, 2010
Safe hugs, Don't go back to the abuse!
by: Mac

Lauren;Glad you're out of that situation, don't go back! You can't heal or change your momma,by submitting & enduring.She needs to be reported, and you need to keep yourself safe,and continuing to begin your recovery walk. Get the support you need, whatever it takes to protect yourself, & help you heal. It's a life long journey into a new , better life & happiness, but no matter how hard it is to get there, keep going forward towards it,...to happiness, wholeness, a better life.Sharing your story is a good step forward, as there are others who share your pain, & walk beside you on your recovery path.So proud of you girl..... you're on your way out of that horrid darkness & pain! You're ok, & you're getting stronger/ better everyday. Remember to be gentle on yourself, & patient,when changes don't just happen in a blink of an eye,etc.,....don't give up. Life's not easy, but life is so much more than the pain of the past.

Mar 27, 2010
prayers and hope each night , we pray the our father , i pray for you
by: Anonymous

The fact that you survived this is just something to me that you would be that strong of a person, could with stand that and survive thru it, and i feel you could be a brilliant person and smart in life help others . someone so strong to survive this . meant to be some one and help others like you. and north carolina from there a beautiful place to come from, i went there after daguther born several months then left came back to where we live our family together , i remember worrying about her ,
a mom a real mom worries, people in denial that is what she did to you in denial, about it there are victims in life who deny things one women she got tied up her mom and she also badly upset her daughter told mine we saw her after at the domestic violence place to help her, but she too in denial like nothing happen , she was the victim , see so you the fact you are so healthy about knowing the truth telling it, and last thing we love you, and when you need a hug think of us here this site and others an here is a hug
we are italian and hugs a big thing irish scottish my sons and daugther italian, so here is a hug any time you need it and love to you
from all those here and us and you will get the love you need in life someone as special as you , i just know it, keep us in your heart.
good luck , and well save a special place in your heart for the real family you needed and in your future , i pray for you ,

Apr 07, 2010
Questions for Lauren
by: Anonymous

Thank you so much for sharing your story Lauren. When you were in this situation, did anyone try to help you? Do you think there was something that someone should have seen and reported? Under what circumstances would you have confided in someone else about your abuse? I ask these questions to you in hopes that people can better recognize the symptoms and offer help to children in similar situations. You've been through something very horrible and survived. Be proud of yourself. God bless you.

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