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Child Abuse Story From Lauren

by Lauren
(USA)




I can't remember exactly when the abuse started, but it ended when I was 12. I am 13 now. My mother would often punch me and grab me by my throat. I would try to hide in the corner of my room as I heard her running up the stairs to give me a beating. She said it made her feel good, and she would often tell me how much of an idiot I was. All I could do was cry, and BEG god to make it stop. I used to think it was my fault because I was such a hell raiser, but it wasn't...I became depressed, I just wanted to die.

Then, last year my mom found a church she really liked. She started going all the time and the abuse stopped. She no longer had a temper and we could talk about things more often. Since then she has only hit me once, but I will always love her.

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Apr 11, 2009
You are SUCH a compassionate young woman...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Lauren, I am so happy to learn that your mother found a way to heal herself, and in the process stopped abusing you. Always remember that when your mother did those terrible things to you, it was her reacting inappropriately and lashing out at you. It had nothing to do with you and who you are. You are a smart, articulate and precious young woman. Don't ever forget that. You are also mature beyond your years...you now recognize that what happened to you wasn't your fault, AND you've let go of any hostility and resentment you may have felt toward your mother. At thirteen years of age you have forgiven her for her ill-treatment of you, something that many adults find extremely difficult to do. You are filled with love for your mother; that makes you a truly compassionate person, Lauren. That compassion will take you far in your future as you strive to reach your full potential; potential that I have no doubt you will realize.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me, and for showing your loving, caring side. I wish you and your mother all the best.

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Apr 11, 2009
To Lauren
by: Francine

Lauren, your mother was wrong. You are not an idiot; you are smart and articulate. If she hurts you again, please tell someone about it. I'm sorry that you didn't have a good childhood. I hope you talk to a trusted adult about it, mostly a teacher. You did not deserve to be mistreated in any way (in fact, none of us do!). I love you and I wish you all the best, sweetheart. Be brave and stay strong.

Apr 12, 2009
Live now
by: Cassie1

It is so great that your mother has changed. I'm sure your still sometimes fearful that she might go back to what she was, but church is something great to get into, and I hope that you are getting into it too. You are much like me. I can never say that I hate my parents and i will never say it. Just as you love your mother, and I'm sure you always will. You didn't miss all your childhood yet, so now take your steps holding your mother's hand. She's there beside you now. Take advantage of it. Make these days the best. The best days to remember. The days that you will remember when you go to remember your mother or your childhood. Live for now. I'm very proud of you. For taking a step forward, but if anything were to ever change I would talk to someone. Make sure you tell someone. Keep loving your mother, and take care. I wish you all the best with your mom!
With much love,
Cassie1

Apr 22, 2009
You are AMAZING!
by: Ashley

Wow, reading your story just made me hopeful that there are good people in this world. You were able to forgive your mother after everything she did to you.. I couldn't do the same. I am amazed that you were able to be so loving and forgiving after living in that hell, that torment. You truly are a wonderful person :D

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