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Child Abuse Story From Kylea

by Kylea
(South Korea)




I can remember when my parents gave me away but it was after my 7th birthday. We were living in South Korea and my father was working at an Air Force Base. However he lost his job because he was always late from drinking. After that things just got worst and my mom was having a hard time feeding us.

One day my father took me for a walk. We walked all day and we finally got to a really nice house. When we went in there were lots of staff walking around. My father went in to a room to meet with a man sitting at a large desk. The doors close. It felt like forever and the doors opened and the man that was sitting behind the desk came out. I did not see my father. He sat down next to me and he had kind eyes. He told me that he was my new father and that I would not be going home to my father. I began to cry but he say "not cry, I will take great care of you". The way he said it made me very scared.

Life was good for awhile but I heard crying at night in the rooms next to mine. They were my "sisters" rooms. I had lots of "sisters". In our school classes they always looked so sad but i never knew why. About a year after i had been there I found out why.

He started coming in my room at night. He told me that he loved me and wanted to show me. I thought he was going to give me a hug. But he didnt. He started to take my clothes off. I asked him what he was doing he did not answer. I remember looking in his eyes and they where not the same ones that i saw the first day. I started to scream. I was so scared. He stopped and i was so thankful. He left the room but came back shortly with our house mother. I was so confused. She came and sat next to me on the bed and told me to lay back down. I looked pleading in here eyes. Her eyes were kind and she whispered in my ear "just lay still and it will be easier". Then she held my shoulders down and he came close again. I remember the smell of cigars and vodka.

Once he was done he left and my house mother told me to stay there. she went to a dresser and took a tube out. I thought she was going to do something bad a again. She then rubbed something inside me. I then realized she was helping me when the pain went away and it was all numb.



This went on for year and everytime things got more and more extreme. He would send us to partys to make money for him. And they would think up even more extreme things to do to me and my sisters.

One night we heard a big band at the front gates and then cars with lights came rushing in the yard. We were rushed from our rooms to a bunker in the basement. I prayed that someone would save us. I heard gun shots.

All of the sudden the door to the bunker opened and i could not see who it was cause the light rushing in was so bright.

They were talking in a strange language that i did not understand. It was English and they were American soldiers. They took us and put us in big trucks.

We were taken to the same base my father had worked at. A translator told us that we would not have to go back to that hell. And that our "father" would never be able to hurt us again.

There was a lady officer and she gave me a hug and i shuddered. She told me she was sorry. I thought to my self that it was so strange to have someone hug me and it felt good.

I am now 25 and married to an American and i am so thankful for the man that he is but still wish that i could have done something.

I cant believe that i did not fight back and that I let him control me for so long. I still have not been able to sleep in the same room with my husband but hope I can someday.




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Child Abuse Story From Kylea

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Jul 03, 2011
Kylea:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You were a little girl. You had no power to control the situation. You didn't "let" him control you. They were adults. They had all the power, and they misused that power in a heinous way. The took advantage of your vulnerabilities. That's why they were in the business: to bring in targets for their sick pleasure. If you had fought, you likely would have been harmed even further. If you had fought, you may not have lived to be able to speak about what happened. You NEEDED rescuing, Kylea, because you couldn't protect yourself. I'm so grateful for the fact that you were rescued. What happened was not your fault. It will never BE your fault. EVER. Fault is on the shoulders of the man and the woman who sexually offended you because they choose to sexually offend you (and others). And yes, SHE too sexually offended you by holding you down. You are not to blame. And you have no guilt or shame to bear. Guilt and shame is on the shoulders of your offenders. Always remember that. And now you must focus on healing. Please consider some form of counselling in order to help you deal with the effects of being completely abandoned by your parents, and with the effects of having to live in a sexually abusive environment that your own father dropped you off to. You didn't deserve to be betrayed and abandoned. You didn't deserve to be sexually abused or mistreated in any way. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir


Jul 05, 2011
You are so Brave: I really belive this is a turning point for the good in your life
by: maurice

Uncontrolled beasts of men: Your Father was a bad man to abuse you and then leave you and so many other little girls with this beast of a man and a woman: Kylea: Darlene is a proof there is a great resiliance in children and teenagers to overcome abuse: You sure were lucky and a blessed child of God to be taken from that place of horror for you and the other innocent small girls like you: The beast in that place does not deserve help because he sure knew what he was doing to you and those innocent girls: That woman knew too she was aiding him when she held you down for him to cruelly sexually abuse you at that age: Great those soldiers came: you knew the value of a hug: Oh Kylea hug and cuddle yourself: let yourself be hugged and cuddled by your husband and close friends who acknowledge you for being the beautiful and wonderful woman you are now after all what you had to endure: Darlene has written an empowering comment to you from her heart: A woman's huge loving, caring concerned supporting heart will I believe speak loads to another woman's heart: You are a winner over all that you had to endure because people around you LOVE you and yes Kylea You LOVE them in return: You will do what is the best for yourself NOW; counselling in some form will assist you to let go and live your life to the full: Blossom where you are at now: you are gifted, you are tallented, you have leadership qualities that will benefit others: At 25 you sure can have a healthy mind in a healthy body and with a keep fit army man as your husband I am sure you will take to involving yourself in team sports or sporting and cultural activities: Yes, get out and about NOW with like-minded women your own age and live your life to the full: You'll have real and natural friends for life for sure: I admire your courage to overcome: Darlene sure has given your a real comment to work with: I WILL I CAN I MUST BECAUSE I AM WORTH IT: So Be it Kylea

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