Child Abuse Story From Kody

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Child Abuse Story From Kody

by Kody
(Location Undisclosed)

I just turned seventeen, and I'm leaving for college in a couple months, I should be on cloud nine. Excpt I'm so depressed that I was hospitalized a couple months ago for a suicide attempt. It's not that I totally want to die I judt want to escape.

I don't really know what u would call this but it happened on two totally separate occasions and each time it lasted almost a year. When I was nthird and fifth grade boys in my class would touch me sexually. I dn't actually remember everything that happened or even how far they went, I only remember bits and peices. It only happened at school which makes me wonder why my teachers didn't nottice or didn't stop it.

I can remember the first time the boy in third grade did anything, we were watching something about stars and the lights were off he had asked me if he could kiss me and I said no, so he didn't. That was also the last time he asked for permission. Right after I deniedhis kiss he put his hand up my shirt. I can remember other times when we'd be in line for something and he'd always be behind me inside of my pants. I remember fighting back once when he tried to go up my shirt. I tugged it down and hugged it close to my body

In fifth grade there was another boy who was more aggressive about it. he'd make comments while he was groping me, that's also the year that I stopped wearing skirts. They gave him easier access. I don't know if he only touched my butt or if he touched me vaginally too. My memory stops short of that.

Now I'm a complete mess. I've struggled with eating disorders and cutting. Fortunately when my preist found out about the cutting he helped me get into therapy. I've told my therapist vaguely that it happened but I try really hard to stay away from the topic. I'm too ashamed. I don't want him to think I'm disgusting and worthless because I didn't tell anyone and make it stop.

Darlene Barriere: author. speaker. survivor. coach

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Jun 18, 2011

Kody:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

For goodness sake, most people, especially a therapist, would never think badly of you for what you did and didn't do as a little girl. You are putting more mature adult-like values on decisions that you made when you were too little to be making any decisions for yourself at all. You're beating yourself up for no reason at all.

As for children who molest other children, also known as "sexually intrusive children", they have almost always been sexually abused themselves, and they don't know any better. My child sex offenders page on this site speaks to this. Of course, it doesn't change the fact that you are suffering from the effects of these molestations, and that you need help for these repercussions. Talk to your therapist in order to get some clarity and perspective on what happened to you with these two boys. And always remember that it wasn't your fault. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Jun 19, 2011

When I was a child I thought as a child: Now as an adult I must think as an adult
by: maurice

Kody: I am sorry to read you are still upset and some how still being anxious about some aspects of those boys behaviour: Kody read Darlene's comment over a few times especially the beginning pargraphs: This is the truth so stop dwelling on the incidents that happened you as a child; You protectd yourself it was not right what they did but you certainly did not encourage them: You did the right thing to value and respect yourself: You had the courage of your convictions that it was not right what they were doing: so stop worrying yourself about it now: Again Darlene expressed her true feelings from her heart to you: Yes: do talk to a therapist who surely will put you at ease and help you to tell her what you shared here with Darlene and her visitors: trust yourself it is important that you get clarity on these boys antics as children too remeember: They may not have meant it to effect you as it seems to have: But you'll be fine: Have ahealthy mind in a healthy body get out and about being active and alive with your friends and fellow students playing team sports emphasis on Team because you will broaden you horizons and your self respect and esteem will soar higher and higher: You'll have a natural appreciation of your body; You'll make natural and real friends for life: with plenty of aquaintances who will make you feel good each time ye cross path's I know it will open up your mind and help you mature as an inteeligent thinking adolecent and young woman; You are gifted; you are tallented: I am certain you have leadership qualities to be a good team person and maybe captain: I'M SPECIAL: BE GENTLE AND KIND TO YOURSELF; SAY I LOVE THAT BEAUTIFUL ME LOOKING OUT AT ME FROM THE MIRROR: HAVE A HEALTHY MIND IN A HEALTHY BODY: I will, I can< I must, WHY??? because I am worth it: Kody say I AM.

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