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Child Abuse Story From Kelsey

by Kelsey
(Utah, USA)




I wasn't sexually molested or sexually abused as a child. I have no idea if this is completely bad compared to everyone else's stories. In elementary school, I would be picked on - I endured up to 8 years of harsh bullying. That being enough to handle as a young and lost child, going home was the worst. My mom was the root for abuse. She would smack me with whatever was in hand - I remember from an early age she began throwing whatever was in her face at us. Usually she would grab a shoe, no matter how hard or bad it hurt, and launch it at me and beat me on the couch for something so simple. My punishment was being slapped and beat until my insides turned out from crying. I remember also one event where I had dropped something on the floor, and she had grabbed my hair in an instant, leaving me breathless and shaking my head with her fist balled up with my hair. I would sometimes hit my head on the hard wall, my screams amounting to nothing. This had happened many times, and my family was always watching as this happened. She would kick me when I was down on the floor with her shoes on. On one occasion, I know this is completely wrong, but I had fought with her on something. She had begun beating me and grabbing my hair, and I became so fustrated and angry I hit back. She punched me in the face about two times, knocking me out and making my nose bleed. I had ran upstairs in tears. On the day of my birthday, which I mark the worst day, she had beat me on the morning of my birthday because I wanted to go to school with a wrinkled shirt on. When I arrived home from a teary day of school, there was no birthday cake, and instead, I was sent to my room - No TV, No laptop - I sat in my closet for hours, crying my eyes out. Nobody had told me happy birthday. I had fell into a black hole of depression, and had used cutting myself as an exit. Most nights I would stay awake all night, crying. I would cry so bad I would get headaches and completely black out. About a year ago, she had beaten me as I was cleaning the bathroom. She grabbed my hair, tossing my body all around the bathroom like a playtoy. I ended up being tossed to the ground, as soon as I told her I wasn't going to stand for it anymore, she began screaming, beating me all over again. I had scratches and bruises all over my body. I never really told anyone. I don't like discussing it around people. Sometimes I remember that specific time she swung me around the bathroom. She doesn't beat me anymore, well, atleast not like the way she did. I'm working on moving away from her as soon as I graduate from highschool.






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Nov 15, 2011
Kelsey:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Don't compare your situation to that of others. That's not being fair to your circumstances or to you. It isn't about who has it worse or who is dealing with sexual abuse vs physical abuse. The fact is, whatever type of abuse you're dealing with, you're automatically dealing with emotional abuse. That's why emotional abuse is considered the cornerstone of all the abuses; it exists no matter if there is physical or sexual abuse or neglect, but it can also stand on it's own. And it's the emotional abuse that leaves the deepest most devastating scars. It's all about the effects that one is left with, Kelsey. And you've been left with severe effects. You're worthy of dignity and respect and love. Your mother is cruel because of whatever is going on in her life, likely part of her past. She's not acting like the grown up here. She's mentally stuck in her childhood. This has nothing whatsoever to do with you. I know that's hard to believe at this point, but it's true. You are not the problem; your mother is. She is deeply disturbed, and she's taking it out on you. What is happening at her hands is not your fault. Always remember that. Please tell someone: a trusted teacher, a school counsellor, the parents of a close friend, someone who will not only listen to you, but also help you. Consider contacting Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose the abuse. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childhelp.org/get_help

You don't deserve to be mistreated, Kelsey. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you are being mistreated. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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From Victim to Victory, a memoir


Nov 15, 2011
the public?
by: My Two Cents

Kelsey, you mentioned going to school and getting away from your mom when you graduate.

You live in Utah, so you're not going to school in a winter parka and ski pants.

The amount of abuse you are describing is very hard to hide because of the physical evidence it leaves behind - bruises, scars, fingernail marks, hand prints, missing hair (if hair is pulled out) - so I am extremely puzzled as to why nobody has noticed this.

You're not being home schooled. You're attending an educational institution with teachers who should have been taught about recognizing child abuse.

And, those same teachers are required by law to report SUSPICIONS of child abuse to child protective services.

What on earth is going on?? You're probably covered in bruises, have some black eyes, walk with a limp at times...

Do you compete in full contact ultimate fighting cage matches? I mean....what on earth has everyone not acting to protect you? Kids get banged up. A few bruises once in a while are normal, but there's usually a reason for them - fall off your bike, trip on an untied shoe, etc. But....how many times can you trip on an untied shoe?

I'm really disappointed that this has apparently been going on for years and nobody has acted.

I really hope you talk to someone. Call cps yourself. Tell a teacher or a counsellor because you definitely don't deserve to be treated this way by anyone. I'm also a little worried that the violence might be escalating.

Be well.

My Two Cents.

Nov 16, 2011
The sooner, the better...Darlene and My Two Cents are right all along!
by: Anonymous

Kelsey, where was your dad? I can't believe that he would abandon you to the so-called care of that sick, sadistic monster of a mother and allow her to beat and berate you 24/7...how dare he! That's not even discipline; that's just torture. She is a truly sadistic brute. The path that she chose is inexcusable. Oh, and she is, in fact, really acting like an overgrown teenager trapped in a grown woman's body who happened to be a mother after birthing such a beautiful daughter. You are not to blame for her sadistic behavior; she is to blame because she chose to abuse you. You were the child; she was the adult; she had all the power and only misused it over you, so, if she ever hurts you again, please tell someone you really trust and keep telling until he/she will finally listen to you and help you. Oh, and please look into reporting that sadistic beast of a mother as well.

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