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Child Abuse Story From KC

by KC
(USA)

I was about 9 or 10. My sister and I were sleeping in the double bed that we shared. A friend of the family, Tom, was staying over. In the middle of the night he snuck into our room on all fours. He came over to my side of the bed and started rubbing my back and my belly. He tried to go higher and lower, but I pretended to be asleep and kept turning back and forth so he couldn't reach anything. He was breathing hard, and I wasn't sure really what was going on. I don't think he was satisfied, but I was moving so much he gave up. I swore to myself that if he went over to my sister's side of the bed I would punch him in the nose, but he didn't. I've never told anyone.

I know it's not my fault, but I've always been MAD at myself for not doing anything, because knowing and feeling are two different things. I would defend my sister, but I wasn't brave enough to defend myself.

The thought of him still, over ten years later, scares and angers me.

I think I turned out pretty well, but reading these stories I can't help but remember, and wonder how this may have affected me.

There was another incident, not with him, that was weird, but I don't want to go into it.

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Sep 27, 2009

Defending yourself does not have to mean responding with violence...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

KC, it is very common to be ready to defend someone else but not be so ready to do the same for ourselves. In part because when it's happening to us we're shocked and often unprepared. But based on what you wrote, you DID defend yourself. Moving around the way you did WAS defending yourself. Always remember that. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Sep 28, 2009

I did the right thing, I did not , but thankfully he did not put me in that position
by: maurice

Well done KC you safe guarded yourself by doing what you knew to be best at that paticular moment of time. Thanks for admitting it was not your fault Be assured that is your sure stepping stone to letting go of that horrible nightmare he put you through. Friend of your family indeed, taking trying to take advantage of your beautifulness and innocence and that of your sister. I was brave, I did the best thing I knew to not let him do what he wanted to to me. It is an incident in your life that you certainly could have done without. Begin to let go of it in the knowledge you safe guarded yoursefl and your sister. Good on you KC. If you get the chance talk about what you related to Darlene and her visitors to a Counsellor. Relate both incidents the one you did not talk about maybe the one that is holding you back from being true to yourself. Counsellors are good people because in total confidence you can confide in them, they will listen, they will give you stepping stones to Believe in yourself. KC you are brave, you are articualte, you are highly intelligent and I am sure you will understand Darlene's comment to you. She's been there, was abused, and now is living a full life after it especially with her site and the way she's professionally giving back her love and care to all of us who suffered abuse. Once abuse in what ever way and at whatever level we have to accept we were abused. Darlene, in her comments re-assures each one who visits her site. Brief though her comments are getting she still says enough for us to take action and get help. None of us will go too far astray with her loving comments once we take action to get help for ourselves. KC say I can, I will, I must just for me because I'M SPECIAL AND I LOVE ME. LOOK AT ME IN THE MIRROR I'M WONDERFUL AND BEAUTIFUL. KC THINK POSITIVE THOUGHTS ABOUT YOURSELF WHEN YOU STAND IN FRONT OF THE MIRROR. It ain't silly it is empowering yourself. Always believe in yourself

Sep 29, 2009

Thanks
by: KC

Thank you

From Darlene: You're welcome, KC.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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