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Child Abuse Story From Kaylee

by Kaylee
(Seward, Nebraska, USA)

First, EMOTIONAL
My mother and father weren't married when they conceived/gave birth to me, so I guess he felt he had no need to be at my birth. That's ok...my mother and aunt were there. I love them deeply. My father visited me off and on until I was 3, then moved away to ?

Second, PHYSICAL
My mother remarried for my sake, as I was only 4. He treated my mother like a sex toy/maid. If she didn't do as told, he thought it would be funny to bring my mother and me into a room together and scream in our faces. Me? When people yell at me, I laugh. Don't ask me why, but I do...now step-dad didn't think it was very funny and made my mom watch him shove my face into a pillow (suffocate) for awhile.

I acted out a lot when I was 9, to try to get them to break up. It didn't work. My mother thought she was the influence to my acting out so she left, well, tried to. I pleaded and cried. She stayed. I wish she went, but took me with her. My mother is a very attractive woman, so of course, attracts all the pervs. My neighbor -tried- to rape me and my mother (we look a lot alike) but my mother soon divorced, but not before the Halloween that my step-father tried to choke her.

Third, EMOTIONAL
After 10 years of not knowing where my real dad was, he sends me a letter. The return address: Atlanta, Georgia. He said that he was going to come and visit me for Thanksgiving (I live in Nebraska) He did, and I cried when I saw him. I missed having a father. I never got to be Daddy's Girl. Now, he won't answer any of my emails or letters. I feel like he abandoned me AGAIN. He must have hated me when he saw me. He must have thought I wasn't his. I know I am. I have to be. I miss him, but I hate him so bad. I want to be a Daddy's girl. But I need a Daddy.

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Oct 22, 2009
When you can't be a daddy's girl, be your OWN girl...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

The fact that your father won't email you or talk to you now has NOTHING to do with YOU, Kaylee. It has everything to do with HIS inadequacies, HIS feelings of self-doubt. In other words, he's terribly confused. Don't EVER blame yourself for his shortcomings. You my dear are perfect as you are. Stand strong in that knowledge. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Oct 23, 2009
I am the most important child ever birthed
by: maurice

Kaylee, from your story that may not seem the truth but I guarantee you it is. I was birthed by a single Mom and was much luckier than you. My Father was not in my life then or for many a year after. So don't be all concerned that your father was not at your birthing. Even in most ideal of birthing father's are rarely present until it is all completed then the excitement begins. You truly are one very unlucky child. You must know it is not your fault that you were born onto such a house. A mother who seemingly had not a clue about safeguarding you or hersefl from that step-father who used both of you for his own satisfaction abuse and control. When a mother did nothing to safeguard you from him she too needed loads of help to become real. So you were neither Mammy's girl or Daddy's girl. Kaylee pay heed to Darlene loving, caring, supportive words to you, She sure has given you words of affirmation to work with. You must take action and begin loving yourself NOW. Let go and and let your Father drift for as long as he wants. You will be better able to access his Love for you when or if he makes contact again. For Now Kaylee you are the most beautiful. wonderful, intelligent, with honest to goodness feelings about not being Daddy's Girl. Leave go of That feeling and grow now in your own right. You were mistreated, abused but you were not to blame or it was never your fault that you were born into such a household. If you have a chance to speak with a counsellor or therapist please do. Your life will take on a whole new outlook. I'M SPECIAL I NEED TO LOVE ME NOW. SO I CAN MATURE AND GROW INTO THE WONDERFUL AND BEAUTIFUL PERSON/TEENAGER/YOUNG ADULT THAT I WAS BORN TO BE IN MY OWN RIGHT. I CAN, I WILL, I MUST, JUST FOR PRETTY ME. KAYLEE ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSEFL. HI I BET YOU HAVE A TRUE FRIEND WHOM YOU HAVE OPENED OUT YOUR FEELINGS TO SHE IS YOUR STEPPING STONE TO STARDOM IN YOUR LIFE. THAT FRIEND KAYLEE WILL HELP YOU TO MAKE SENSE OF YOUR LIFE TOGETHER AND THAT OF BOY GIRL RELATIONSHIPS. YOU'L BE FINE. LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND SAY TO THAT BEAUTIFUL ME IN IT. I LOVE YOU.

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