Child Abuse Story From Katie2

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Child Abuse Story From Katie2

by Katie
( Lakewood, Colorado, USA)

It all started about 9 months ago when my parents split apart. I didn't think much of it being I was 12 so it was just normal for me. Until I realized my dad's anger problems and his alcohol problem. My mom had begun to threaten me and she begun to tease and harass me. But then around other people she acted not nice but just normal. She would get on my back for anything I did. Even if it wasn't wrong.

A couple months later I began to cut myself. When the school found out and told my mom...she didn't care, well she did, until we got home then it was just "I hope you cut deeper next time." Cutting myself was what set my dad off. From that night on he began to harass me and hit me, threaten me...it was horrible. At times I would beg him to just stop hitting, punching and kicking me. I begged him to stop but he didn't.

About a week later I called the Covenant House and they reported my dad. The police came to my school the next day and I told them everything!!! They arrested my dad but let him go home and they just "talked" to my mom. And didn't find anything wrong with her. She was just too good at hiding what she did. There was a court meeting and I was allowed back at my dad's house...I thought this is it and sure enough...it was. He did it again...hit me, harassed me and he was even more mad and violent than before. My mom kept up her stupid ways with me, and well, now I'm here. I just wanna run away now. I'm only 12...it sucks!! And that's my story....so far.

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May 09, 2009

I agree...it DOES suck...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Katie, you don't deserve to be mistreated and you don't deserve to be ignored. I know what you're dealing with when it comes to your mother. My mother was always nice and "normal" in public, but when it was just us, she said and did things that were cruel and hateful. But when I was your age there was no one to turn to, no one to call. Nowadays, there are places to go to, organizations that have people on staff who will listen to you, if nothing else. One such organization is Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453). They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose any further abuse. And you need to disclose again if the abuse continues.

Katie, I can understand why you feel betrayed and let down by the police. But the police aren't the ones who need to step in when a child is abused. That is the job of Child Protective Services, but even child protective agencies are not in place to remove every child who is abused from their home. They are there to investigate and provide overseeing services. But they aren't mind readers. They can't do anything if they don't have the information to act on.

Always remember, Katie, you are special. You are lovable. You are worthy of dignity and respect. You do not deserve to be abused. If the abuse continues, tell again. It was so brave of you to tell the first time. If that doesn't stop the abuse, tell again. Keep telling until you get the help you really need. Get in touch with Child Help. They really are there to provide you with support. And you are certainly worthy of help and support. The next time you feel the need to cut yourself, pick up the phone instead. You're too precious to keep hurting yourself, even if your parents are too wrapped up in their own problems to see that. I see that. My visitors see that. YOU need to see that too.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

May 09, 2009

When neither parent admit the other is wrong in the way they treat their children then one does not ever feel secure or loved
by: Maurice

Katie 2. you find yourself in such a place/home right now. Not a good place for you to be in until you or someone you trust who will treat you with the dignity and respect you deserve. Darlene as is her way has given you loving/caring love words and suggestions to get that help. You are the lucky one because as she tells you.there are people and places you can get this help from nowadays not as in her a my time when we had no one to turn to. No one certainly in most cases did not want to interfere when parents decided to beat there children and treat them as bad as you are. Rarely would an extended family member speak up for us then. Grandparents had some influence and it worked at times. but generally parents could discipline you in whatever way the saw fit. So Katie 2. avail of that help NOW. You deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. You are a very special teenager in your own right. please do not self harm that beautiful body of yours. You have a friend or two who will hug you and love you enough for you to accept your beautiful. SAY I'M SPECIAL: BELIEVE IT KATIE 2. THIS TRUE.

May 10, 2009

The sooner, the better...Maurice is right
by: Anonymous

Katie, I'm sorry that you didn't have good parents; I went through the same thing, too, and my parents are often "nice" in public, but when it's just me and them, they would literally become my worst nightmare, and everyone outside of my so-called family has always loved them. You might want to tell someone about what your parents had done to you. You can always tell a teacher, principal, school counsellor, church member, priest, just pick a trusted adult. Maurice is right, Katie, tell everyone before it's too late! Don't wait too long.

May 12, 2009

im sorry
by: shadow

I can't say i know what its like because i don't. What i can say is that you didn't deserve to be treated like that im very sorry for what your parents put you through and i hope one day your parents get what they deserve because its wrong. I can just tell you to put one foot in front of the other and take everyday as it comes. i Hope and pray that everything turns out ok

May 12, 2009

Words of love and support for you
by: maurice

Hiya, wonderful Katie 2. Oh yes you are so please begin to believe it and then you will be brave and strong enough in yourself to be able to Say I can do it, I will do it, I must do it. Loads of loving words from people who care and who encourage me to love myself and get help. Katie 2 Darlene's words are precious words for you to begin with. I want what is the best for you and so does Anonymous and shadow. One can feel their caring nature coming through for you in their comment. Katie 2 share what you believe will help you with someone who really cares and loves you enough to be with you doing it. I am sure you have a small number of friends who say to you lean on me, let me be your shadow helping you.

May 13, 2009

DO WHAT I DID
by: Anonymous

yOUR A STRONG KID BECAUSE I WOULDNT BE ABLE TO PUT UP WITH IT...BUT SOME WORD OF ADVICE...DO WHAT I DID! EVERYTIME MY PARENTS WOULD HIT, PUNCH ..WHATEVER I WOULD TAKE PICTURES OF IT...THEY DIDINT ALLOW ME TO HAVE A PHONE OR CAMERA SO I ASKED A CLOSE FRIEND TO LET ME BORROW HERS FOR ATLEAST 3 DAYS AND I EXPLAINED TO HER WHY....TAKE PICTURES OF YOUR BRUISES AND SCARS...ALWAYS! AND WHEN U HAVE ENOUGH PROOF GO TO AN ADULT AT SCHOOL OR HECK GO TO THE POLICE STATION AND REPORT THEM BOTH......YOU DONT DESERVE THIS..DONT PUT UP WITH IT...BE STRONG, YOU HAVE A LONG WAY TO GO WITH YOUR LIFE, DONT LET THEM RUIN IT...I BEG YOU! DO IT! BE STRONG! I PROMISE WITH THAT PROOF YOU WILL BE SAVED.

Aug 06, 2009

please stay strong
by: Anonymous

It is horrible how easily the people who are in the power to help abused people chose to believe the oldest and seemingly most mature individual. I had similar problems when I was younger and I had to start getting into trouble in order for anyone to help me. I am not in any way trying to convince you to try to get into trouble, because it is not the way to go. But I would suggest talking to someone who you trust and asking for their help. As bad as it sounds, sometimes it takes many efforts and disappointments from people who are supposed to help you for you to find the person who not only believes you but does everything in their power to keep you from harm. It took much disappointment and disbelief from many people around me until I found the person who would do everything in their power to protect me. And sometimes the best thing you can do is to never give up hope and be the"squeaky wheel", the person who continues to try to get people to realize that there is a problem that needs to be fixed and to try to make the people who should be protecting you do exactly that. I advise you to try to be the loud amplified voice to reach those that should help you. It isn't your fault that any of this is going on, and I hope that you never give up hope, as hard as it may seem to keep hope, because giving up hope only lets the abuser win, and sometimes the best you can do is keep holding on even when you feel like there is nothing to hold onto.

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