Child Abuse Story From Katie C

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Child Abuse Story From Katie C

by Katie C
(Virginia, USA)

My two brothers:
This happened I think about 4 years ago in 2005. I was 8 years old and I was pretty smart. I was very very close to my family, especially my siblings. One of my brothers was always mean to me but I just took it in day after day.

But then one day in January to be exact, it snowed and we didn't have school that day. My dad had to work. My stepmom, who was a teacher, just had to work half of the day. My sister, who was old enough to drive, went to see her boyfriend. So I think it was around 11 o'clock and my 2 brothers were playing dominos. I was just laying on the bed watching. After a minute or so one whispered to the other and I didn't know what they were saying. Then out of nowhere, the older one starts to pull down my pants and starts fingering me. At the time I didn't know what that was. It felt funny but good. He was rubbing really hard and I started to cry and he told me to shut up. So I just lay there trying not to cry. I looked over at my other brother and he was just laughing. This went on for about a week and then it stopped. I have NEVER told anyone this, not even my bestest friend, who I trust with all my heart.

I'm now 13 and have a boyfriend. The other day he asked me why I didn't want to go farther than make out with him and asked me what was wrong. He wanted to know if I have been abused before.

I am not sure what to tell him. I don't know if I should say, 'cause I didn't want to', or say, 'cause I was sexual abused when I was younger.' I am scared by putting this info on this website but I needed to get this off my chest.

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR READING MY STORY!

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May 21, 2009

TELL someone, but I'm NOT talking about your boyfriend...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Katie, you need to tell an adult about what happened to you at the hands of your brothers, someone who can get you the help you need. Your brothers did this to their little sister. They may well be still molesting other little girls. Tell your parents, but if your parents are not willing to do something to get you the help you really need, talk to a school counsellor or a trusted teacher. Contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency.

Your boyfriend is way too young and immature to be able to help you in any significant way. Yes, he can be a supportive person in your life, but he isn't a professional. The fact that he wants you to go further tells me that he is not thinking about YOU. Katie, for goodness sake, you're 13 years old! You are not old enough to be going further with your boyfriend. His main concern is getting sex from you. It is NOT about caring for you, as difficult as that may be for you to believe right now. I REPEAT, YOU ARE NOT OLD ENOUGH TO BE HAVING SEX WITH ANYONE! If he's pressuring you, that is a clear sign that he really doesn't care about you and your feelings. Please call Child Help. Here on this site, I can only provide you a place to safely tell your story, a place where I (and possibly others) will offer validation and encouragement.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

P.S. Katie, you'll note I removed your last name: this was to ensure your privacy and anonymity. This will help to keep you safe.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

May 21, 2009

Tell Someone
by: Judy

Hello Katie - I agree with Darlene totally. You should definitely tell your parents or call the number provided if you get no satisfied result from your parents. Do not worry about the consequences of others - you did nothing wrong but your brothers did and it is possible that they have or will harm someone as well. The fact that your boyfriend is pressuring you for sex and knows the signs of abuse - tells me that he may be to old for you. No matter the age of the individual - You shouldn't even entertain the thought of being sexually active with anyone at such a young. Take care of yourself and I sincerely wish you the best. Judy

May 22, 2009

oh please share it with your Mother older sister
by: maurice

Katie as you tell Darlene and her many visitors that you are very close to your family except the one brother who is not at all nice to you. Please read Darlen's loving words to you she know exactly what is important for you to do right NOW. You are highly intelligent, you know now is was not right what your brother did to you, It was not your fault. you were in no position to scream for the help of your mam or older sister at that time. He just was cruel to you and abused you.. I would say relate what happened to you to your Mam/older sister and if then you feel you trust your bestest of friends tell them. remember you are only 13 years of age but a very intelligent 13 year old. Always believe in yourself, Say I'm Special and I need to love me. You have a good family to love and support you Katie C.

May 22, 2009

I do feel what you feel.
by: K.C.

I can say that I know how you feel. I was sexually abused and was always scared that I would never be able to get close to someone.

Please tell your best friend. I did and I feel so much better because she knows how I feel because she was sexually abused as well. If she is a friend she will understand and try and help you through this hard time. Don't be afraid to tell your mother, there is nothing that those two boys can do to hurt you if you tell her. At least I hope not.

I wish the best for you Katie.

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