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Child Abuse Story From Kathy

by Katherine
(Los Angeles, California, USA)




My mother always lived the "happy life"...meaning she left my sister and I alone most of the time. We were lucky if she took us two blocks away to my aunt's house. She always had different boyfriends...some who we liked and some who we hated.

When my mom couldn't handle being a "mother" she would send us away as far as possible...that's when my story takes place...living with a family member...an aunt, her husband, and their daughter who was 8...my mom was living in Los Angeles at the time.

It was two in the morning. My sister was in a room. I had fallen asleep on the living room couch, when I woke up to my "uncle" touching me in an inappropriate way. When I tried getting away from him to go to my sister he grabbed me with so much strength...I was only 6 so I couldn't fight him...when I tried screaming for my aunt or for help he slapped me and told me that if I screamed it would only make him mad and it would only make it worse. He raped me 3 times that night.

The next morning I told my sister what had happened...she hugged me so hard...she told me she was sorry for letting me fall asleep in the couch...she said she would tell Mom what had happened.

The same week when mom came to visit us, my sister told my mom...Mom asked, and I said it was all true...but she had asked him first...he denied it...my mom didn't do anything...she got along perfectly with the guy who raped her 6-year-old daughter.



The second time, I got molested by a cousin of mine when I was asleep...and while my mom was outside in her boyfriend's car having sex.

Luckily, I am a strong 20-year-old lady who didn't allow those events to affect her life and her happiness!!! I may have nightmares about them still, but I wake up the next morning with a smile on my face.

Writing this story helps me feel better.
I feel the more I talk about it the more it fades from my memory!!!!

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Child Abuse Story From Kathy

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Feb 28, 2009
You have such a CARING sister!
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Kathy, your mother was deeply troubled. She was not there for you or your sister either physically or emotionally. Her neglect cost you your innocence at the hands of that molester of an "uncle", and a further assault practically right under her nose. Your mother chose to stay in denial over what happened to you, her precious little girl, during a time when you needed her the most. I can only imagine the emotional turmoil, the feelings of abandonment and betrayal that you must have gone through over this. And while I can certainly appreciate that you wake up the morning after a nightmare from the haunting this has left you with, I am concerned that you yourself may be in a form of denial over the effects the sexual abuse really had on you.

Yes, you ARE strong; VERY strong. But needing help and asking for it doesn't imply weakness; indeed, the exact opposite is true: It requires a great deal of strength. I therefore hope you will consider some form of counselling to help you deal with the criminal acts that were committed against you by your "uncle", your cousin, and your mother.

I wish you and your sister all the best, Kathy. About your sister...I see her as one of your rescuers, even if she herself was too young to be able to change anything for you or her. And just for the record, she has NO blame whatsoever in what happened to you when you were on that couch. The blame lies squarely on the shoulders of that sex offender. I hope she too is getting some form of counselling. You BOTH deserve it.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

A Video Reading by Darlene Barriere
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir


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