Child Abuse Story From Katherine

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Child Abuse Story From Katherine

by Katherine
(Tennessee, USA)

Sexual Abuse:
When I was 10 years old my step dad started touching me. My mom was/is a drug addict and my dad was in and out of prison. It felt wrong but he had been in my life 3 years before and I looked up to him. One night my mom went out to get more drugs my step dad told me to go feed my cat, my cats food was in their bathroom. I fed my cat and next thing I knew I was on the bathroom counter and he was touching me asking me if he could put it in and I said no and he said I promise it won't hurt, needless to say I finally let him do it but first he took me to their bed. He molested me for 5 years and I finally told. I'm 16 now. I told 2 weeks after my Dad died. My Dad was always telling me to do what's right and staying pure and all that. So after he died all his advice flooded through my head and I finally decided to tell. I told my mom on a Monday, that was a school day. She cried and wanted details but I didn't want to talk about it. She let me stay home that day so I went to my room and then she woke my step dad up and was asking him about it and Of course he lied. My dad had a girlfriend before he died so I texted her and told her and she came over and picked me up after my step dad went to work. I stayed with my dads girlfriend for 3 days and my mom had not kicked my step dad out and she hadn't called the police either so my dads girlfriend did I gave them my story and I was put in a foster home until they could find someone in my family to take me. My papaw took me 3 days after I was put Into foster care. It has been 6months since I have told and the police haven't done anything they haven't even questioned my step dad. My mom chose my step dad over me. She doesn't believe me. In a year I have had a rough year, my dad died and my mom chose my step dad over me so I was separated from her. I keep my head high though.

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Sep 24, 2011

Katherine:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

My deepest condolences on the loss of your father. It sounds as though he was a big influence in your life. And he would be so proud of you for being courageous and disclosing what that sick excuse of a pedophile did to you. Be very proud of yourself for telling, Katherine. The next thing I will say to you is that you didn't "let" your stepdad sexually abuse you. To be blunt, get that out of your thought process. That's not the reality of the situation. HE sexually abused you. HE took advantage of your youth and your vulnerabilities. HE took from you what wasn't his to take. You could not consent. You did not consent. HE chose to sexually abuse you, which means the fault is all on him. Don't ever forget that. The man is a pedophile, among the worst kind of sex offenders. As for your mother, she's an enabler and she is twisted in her ways of thinking. Any mother who would chose a pedophile over her precious daughter is a mother who doesn't deserve to have that daughter in her life. I know you want that relationship with your mother, and that you want everything back to the way it was before your dad died and before the stepdad was in the picture, or at the very least, before he started to sexually abuse you. If you live your life thinking in this way, you will do so at the expense of realizing what you have in your life NOW. Within the foster system I do hope you have access to some form of counselling, and that you're taking advantage of that. You deserve the best, Katherine. Keep your head held high, and live your life, not in the shadow of what you were forced to endure, but rather, in the light of Who You Really Are. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Sep 25, 2011

Such Horror
by: Anonymous

Katherine, I can't believe that your mom would abandon you to the so-called care of that sick pervert of a stepdad and allow him to offend you 24/7...how dare she! Shame on her for running away from you all the time instead of protecting you from that sicko! I'm really disgusted by her reaction towards you trying to turn to her for help; Children should always come first. Oh, and kudos to your late dad for telling you to tell because that's what you needed to do (and I'm also glad that you told!). I'm also glad that your adoptive dad is with you now because he is so sweet for doing that; I just hope that you try counselling.

Sep 25, 2011

Keep on standing up for what's right
by: Jill

Katherine,
Your mom is not only choosing a pedophile over you, she's been choosing drugs over you for a long time. The abuse started while she was out chasing her addiction. Drug addicts don't see their children as people, they think of them as possessions. It hurts to know that she didn't care. She's never protected you because she's avoiding seeing herself and taking responsibility for her life. Understand that she's actually a child in an adult's body, as is the step dad who saw you as an object. They're both acting like they are 3 years old, and 3 year olds can't think responsibly or take care of a 10 or 16 year old.

Though your dad also avoided his responsibility to you as a parent by being in prison instead of with you, he did take the time to validate you. When he died, your grief awakened your decision to care enough to end your abuse. You used your power by telling until you found mature people who listened to you. You separated from your mother and stepdad's behavior and you were being the mom (and dad) you needed inside for yourself! Be proud of yourself for being there for you, it's such an important and healthy step to becoming a mature adult.

Keep validating yourself all the time so you can be strong and sure for the rest of your life. People respect a person who can always stand up for what they know is right.

Depend on your inner voice to keep yourself out of harm's way. Others may be there to help you but you will always be there for yourself 24 hrs a day.

Always remember that your mom is sick and can't be the mom you needed because if this. It was never anything you did.

Continue to validate yourself as the only person who ever has the right to your body - ever! No matter what a future guy in your life says, you never have to make him happy with your body even if it means losing him. Don't be afraid to walk away from that. It's his job to make himself happy - not yours! You will always respect yourself.

Keep working out all the confusion you may feel about what they did to you. You will recover and find peace within yourself because you care. Keep standing up for yourself!

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