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Child Abuse Story From Kate2

by Kate
(Location Undisclosed)




I still remember the first time he hit me. I was six. My dad was completely sober. See, my mom has a very demanding job, and she was often (and still is) out of town. It was a Tuesday afternoon in April. My older sister was at basketball practice. My younger sister was asleep in the room downstairs. Daddy found me in my room after school. He was angry. He started yelling. And I was scared. I cried for my mother. He just started hitting me. He never hit my face. Not once. Just my chest and my ribs and my stomach. When he could not possibly hit me anymore, he left me. I sat crying in my room. At six years old I knew he wasn't supposed to hurt me like that. But he came back and he told me that if I told anyone, he would hurt my mom and sisters. Maybe not all at the same time, but he would hurt someone. So I kept quiet.

It became frequent. He hit me almost every time we were alone. Never did he hit my face, and he adjusted where he hurt me so that no one could see. In the summer he hit me only where my swim suit covered. I never wore a two-piece. After about a year of this he started to do other things. He would cut me with a pair of scissors. He would burn the bottoms of my feet and other places. He would mix acid and glue and pour it on my skin.

When I was nine he started to go further. He would pull down his pants and have me massage him. Then he would "tickle" me in my privates. Sadly I thought nothing of it. He just told me he was showing how much he loved me. He made me kiss him. He kissed me. Then one day he raped me. It happened three times over a course of five months. The abuse continued, and the molesting continued, but he stopped raping me.



Five years later he has started again. Last week he came in my room every night. He does it after the rest of my family is asleep. He still hits me. He burns me. He cuts me. He tells me things that he shouldn't.

I have been hiding this from my family. Nobody else knows, except for two of my closest friends who have gone through the same thing and have promised not to tell anyone. I'm so tired of being afraid of him. Of being used. I wish I could get out of it. Out of everything, but I know that he will just hurt someone else. I'd rather he hurt me than any other family member.

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Child Abuse Story From Kate2

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Mar 18, 2009
Please TELL!
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Kate, I really don't know HOW your mother couldn't know what your father is doing to you. There is evidence, regardless of whether or not he is physically abusing you in places that aren't noticeable, there are OTHER signs. Same goes with the sexual abuse. If your family doesn't know that you are being so violently hurt, I don't know how you can know that your father isn't also hurting your sisters and threatening them if they tell. You are NOT protecting your sisters by keeping this horrible secret. You MUST tell someone. You don't deserve to be mistreated, and you don't know whether or not your sisters are also being mistreated, and yes, even sexually assaulted.

I urge you to contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose what is happening in your home. While I thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me, Kate, you absolutely NEED to disclose what your father is doing to you, and quite possibly your sisters too.

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Mar 18, 2009
The key to freedom is exposure
by: Linda Settles

Dear Kate,
Abusers such as your father never abuse just one child. I know it hurts to think he may be molesting your siblings as well, but he probably is.

The longer you wait to expose your father's crimes against you, the harder it will be to recover from them,. You have made a start, and I commend you for that. Sharing on this site is a powerful step in the right direction. But it is not enough, hon. You need to call the crisis hotline as Darlene suggested and get the help you need.

I know it takes courage to make action. You need support from helping professionals. I think you are brave enough, Kate, to do the right thing.

Keep us updated on this site, hon. We care about you and want to know that you are okay.

A Fellow-Survivor,
Linda

Mar 22, 2009
Tell
by: Anonymous

Your father is a sick, sick man. You need to go to the police, you need to tell your mom. If not things will only get worse. He cannot use yu like this. You are a human, with thoughts and feelings of your own, not an object that he can use for his own pleasure. You have the right to resist, and he has no right to abuse you.

Good Luck

Mar 23, 2009
Your Friends Kate.
by: maurice

Oh Kate, you lucky, lucky person. With your trusted friends be brave and tell the Police or someone who can rid you of this very very sick individual human being. His animal insticts are horrible for you you. Plase tell someone who will LIsten to you. your special two friend will be your strength angels from God to really LOVE you and support you to tell. He does not deserve the name Father. Daddy, Kete he is a bad man. no beautiful child ever deserves to have such things that he is doing to you done. You are a very brave person to relate your story to your many listening and caring friends on Darlene's real haven for sharing, knowing she cares because she know the hurt/pain of the abused. Thank You

Mar 23, 2009
you cant let him get away
by: Anonymous

hiya kate luv

we have jus read ur story and we feel as if its happenin to sum1 close 2 uz. your dad is sick discusting mad man who needs to be stopped before he does the eact same thing to your litle sisters! this is not a joke it is garanteed that he will end up doing the same things to your sisters if you dont report it! we do know its not easy but you have to be brave love and think about your sisters! we know that you are thinking of your family but he will harm your familly either way if he is not stopped RYTE NOW!please dont allow him to do more cuel things to you hun! u dont deserve it! he needs to be sent down!
good luck chuck

Mar 25, 2009
GET HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
by: Anonymous

Dear Kate2,
Please please please contact help. wait untill your parents are out and call someone or run away. you cant stay there. things will only get worse and you are only human. try to get away!
Good luck!

Mar 26, 2009
YOU CAN MAKE HIM STOP
by: Anonymous

I sympathize with you. I was physically abused, mentaly and emotionally abused since as long as I can remember. I am an adult now and my biggest regret is that I didn't tell the authorities (police) about it. If I had, it would have ended. I know that it seems hard, but all that you have to do is call 911, call the police and tell them everything and it will all end. The truth is that he is a coward and a weakling for preying on you, a child. And it is you who are the strong one for enduring the abuse. The only way that you can really protect your family from him is by telling the police. If possible go to the police the next time you have some sort of mark on your body such as a bruise. In this sort of situation proof always helps. The only reason that he has gotten away with it as long as he has is because you are keeping quiet. Once you tell everything will get much better. AND DO NOT TELL YOUR FAMILY FIRST, GO STRAIGHT TO THE POLICE. A LOT OF THE TIME FAMILY WILL TRY TO FIX IT THEMSELVES AND THAT WILL MOST LIKELY FAIL. If you truly want to protect others all that you have to do is tell. It may seem hard, but once you start talking you will see how easy it really is and wonder why you didn't tell before. Also, the tactic of fear and intimidation that he uses on you is a common tactic of these losers, they use your love for the ones you care about to protect themselves from getting caught and to keep on satisfying their sick urges. My biggest regret in life is that I never told and allowed it to destroy my life. You have to tell!

May 25, 2009
Run
by: Not Broken !!!!

With all the marks and abuse on your poor body someone will believe you. There is scares on you. I know you are frightern bt you have to take that step for help. When you go to school go to the one person you feel close or trust and YOU tell them and show them what has been happen to you. Tell them of the beatings, the marks, the sex and threats on the family i you said anything. If they donot listen YELL LOUDER. Make them call the police,child welfare. Take that step...please...get yourself out of there. You can do this...have faith in yourself...you already did the first step...talking--telling...go the first chance you get. They will listen and help you. Good luck. I will pray for you.

May 31, 2009
My heart pains for you still
by: maurice

Kate 2. my heart still goes out to you. you are stronger in yourself then you believe yourself to be. All the visitors and Darlene emphatise with you deeply. we want you to begin to LOVE the beautiful person you are in your own right. Your acceptance of that beauty is within you. only you can let it out to love your own prettiness and beauty on the outside. Okay Katie 2 Bad people put marks and scars on that outer prettiness and beauty that are ever so real to you. With the help of your friends hug yourself and receive hugs, hugs, galore in plenty to help erase those marks. never completely my friend. I know that. But we can be gentle on ourselves by massaging away those scars with caressing soothing cream and acknowledging my body is beautiful, even the parts that are and were abused. Our tenderness within is powerful of the tenderness outside. Katie2 look in that mirror of yours the biggest one you can find and say yes I am beautiful. Yes I can accomplish anything I want in my life. Hi Katie 2 believe that you can. I will, I can, I must for me NOW. I agree with other visitors comments that if you are strong enough and brave enough with the help of your few close friends at school show your marks to a caring concerned counsellor teacher nurse who will help you to begin your loving yourself as well as your healing process. Go for it this week. Think positive, act positive and be positive and Love your wonderful and beautiful self.

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