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Child Abuse Story From Karri

by Karri
(England)




Abuse was around me from as long as I can remember, sometimes subtly, sometimes obvious. Neglected emotionally, everything I would do would be cut down by a spiteful remark by my Mother, that's what I'll call her spiteful, she never hit me only with words.
A Father who totally ignored us children but used us as his personal slaves, fetch this, carry that, eventually he found another 'slave' job for my sister to do, which was to sexually abuse her maybe 3 or 4 times until my Mother found out and divorced him. Good, I might hear you say but I believe my Mother only acted so quickly because she wanted my Father out of the house anyway. Nothing was ever done solely for the good of us children.

My Mother got a boyfriend when I became about 11, he then went on to sexually abuse my sister (2 years older than me)he too did this a couple of times before my Mother 'told my sister to tell him to leave her alone'.
Can you believe that?
Around this time when 'unnatural' sex activity was going on my own Mother sexually felt my breast 'whilst scratching my back' I didn't say anything because I liked the feel of it. I am not ashamed, nor do I feel guilty about my body responding to the touch, it's my Mother that should hang her head, and be damn well ashamed of herself.
I have NEVER felt like ANY abuse was mine or my siblings fault, only the fault of dreadful, dreadful parents and an adult. The worst thing I feel about the sexual abuse suffered by my sister and I is that it was 'done' in a way to 'sexually arouse us'. A truly dreadful thing to deal with.




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Child Abuse Story From Karri

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Oct 01, 2011
Karri:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I'm so proud of you for realizing that none of what happened in your house was your fault. You didn't walk away from that abusive environment with that message. Instead, you see things for what they are. Emotional abuse brings the deepest scars. It tears at the fabric of who we are. And I agree...your mother has much to hang her head for. She did not protect you and your sister from harm. Instead, she wither used you both for her own agenda, or she put you both at risk, and then did nothing to further protect either of you. Putting her hands on you the way she did must have been so very confusing. As disturbing as it is to realize the sexual abuse was done to "sexually arouse" you, the fact is, sexual touching IS arousing. Pedophiles know this, and they use it as a way to convince the child they "enjoy" it, therefore all is supposedly well with their world. Nothing could be further from the truth. You and your sister were betrayed by an obviously twisted mother, a sick and perverted father, and by a pedophile your mother brought into your lives, and kept in your lives when she knew what he was doing. That alone leaves deep scars. I do hope you and your sister are in some form of counselling in order to help you deal with the effects of her betrayal and abandonment, and the sexual abuse itself. Neither of you deserved to be abused. Both of you deserve help for the fact that you were. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Oct 03, 2011
New Beginning's NOW for ME
by: maurice

I am certain you searched for and found Darlene's site so you could move on in living your life to the full: Your cry for support and help to do so: Darlene from her woman's heart has given you that in her comment: Read it; Understand all she has said to you: You were endangered by your mother leaving you and your sister in an abusive situtraion: Some one with pedophille tendencies, a sicko, a beast of the worse kind of the human species: You are a very intelligent young Woman Karri: Stay in education: Live well: Laugh Often: Love much: Then Karri have ahealthy mind in a healthy body for over 4o years now I have seen the benefit of this for thousands of the young and not so young whom I have encouraged to be part of Team sports and sporting and cultural activities: Karri, it will open up new horizons for you you can dream your dreams and make the difference: I Can: I will: I must: becaue I am WORTH it: Karri just do it for your own good and future happeiness so that you can say: I am AMAZING: The architect of my own destiny: I am Beautiful both inside and out: Dynamic: Ever changing and ever growing: LOVABLE: Exactly as I am: Valueable I make a differance: Karri: Be gentle and kind but firm on your self: Make the difference: Hi, know when Darlene reminds you and all her visitors to seek counselling she means that from her heart and she knows it's importance for all to move on in their lives: So Karri heed her loving feelings for your happiness; I WILL I CAN I MUST BECAUSE I AM WORTH IT; That U YOU sure are Ms Karri: ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF:

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