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Child Abuse Story From K

by K
(USA )

One of the people I trusted most in the world broke my trust. I don't remember everything that happened, but I remember enough. When I was little, maybe 6 or 7 my brother who was 3 years older than me started molesting me. I was so young and didn't know what was happening. He would bribe me and tell me that if I let him touch me he would play games with me. I didn't know it was wrong and just wanted my older brothers attention. He molested me until I was 12 or 13. We had a special place in the woods where he would take me. He wouldn't let my little sister come and that made me feel special. One time when I was 9 we were alone in the living room. I was wearing a nightgown and he had pulled my underware down. My mom walked in and saw him on top of me. She asked what was happening and he made up some excuse. I know she saw something, why didn't she stop it? It continued for years after that night. It continued until he tried to rape me when I was 12 or 13 and I screamed because it hurt. After that I wouldn't let him near me. He still tried to touch me for a while but eventually gave up. I thought I had handled it and come to terms with what had happened but I'm almost 18 and this past year I have been having flash backs of what he did. I'm very shy, timid, and don't trust people. My parents still don't know it happened. Recently I've been having trouble sleeping. The memories just come at random times. I told my mom I need to see a therapist because I can't deal with it on my own any more but she doesn't understand and hasn't gotten me help yet. I wish none of this had ever happened. Maybe then I would be able to trust my friends.

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Sep 29, 2011

K:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

At 9 or 10 years old your brother was what is termed a "sexually intrusive child"; and he was that way because someone was sexually abusing him in some way. Understanding this may help you to deal with what you've been forced to endure, as well as the effects. You said that you've told your mother that you needed help but nothing has come of it yet. But you also said you haven't told your parents what happened. If they don't know, they won't understand what you're really going through, and consequently won't know how important counselling is for you. And I do appreciate how difficult it will be to tell them: You risk them not believing you, and instead taking the sex offenders side. And that can and would be devastating. But if you don't open up about what really did happen, you may not get the help you know you need. Consider contacting Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about what you're dealing with. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose the abuse. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childhelp.org/get_help

Just don't keep trying to deal with this alone, K. Don't keep the secret. In all likelihood, you were not your brother's only victim. You didn't deserve to be sexually abuse. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Sep 30, 2011

Talk it out with someone you trust:: A good and true friend
by: maurice

K.. Great you searched for and found Darlene's safe haven site to begin letting go of what you brother did to you in being a sexually intrusive child: He was wrong: he took advantage of you: You were aware of that at 12 years of age when he pushed his luck and hurt you: You felt the pain and said that is enough: That was brave and it took courage to tell him NO MORE: You had the courage then please find that same courage now with the help of your closest of friends who I hope is your own age and gender: (Most Important K) girls young women need that special friend to share all their intimate stuff with so they naturally help each other to cope: With that friend read Darlene's comment to you: She sure has shared her heart feelings with you in truth and honesty in love, understanding, support and affirmation: You are highly intelligent K. you know she gives you the best way forward for you now to Be Amazing Taking Charge of your Own destiny: Then get out and about with your fellow students, friends, young women your own age and take part in Team sports: Sporting and Cultural Activities: This will give you a Healthy Mind in a Healthy Body: Give your real and natural friends for life with many aquaintances to make you smile when you cross path's K LIVE WELL: LAUGH OFTEN: LOVE MUCH: Live your life to the full each day you jump out of bed and into the shower: Look in the mirror and hug and cuddle that beautiful me woman looking out at you: Be gentle and kind with yourself and on that beautidful body: soothe it from time to time with scented oils and creams Just Love yourself to bits it is a great feeling K I will I can I must because I am WORTH it. Now be sure to follow Darlene loving encouraging words of advice to you: I will etc> Talk and tell someone who will help you make the difference:

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