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Child Abuse Story From Jon

by Jon
(Boston, Massacheusetts, USA)




My mother has health problems and would get into many fights with my father. She wasn't even close to being strong enough to defend herself, and when he would hit her I couldn't sit to watch it. I would try, even at the age of 8, to pull him off of her and hit him and get him away from her. This would get me beat to the floor for hours.

I've run away at least 10 times from my house. Each time, I was chased by my father, who grabbed me by the wrist and dragged me home. I would have bruises and cuts appearing everywhere. and when I would go to school I would be questioned. The only story I knew was that I fell off my bike, so I would say that every time. After a while, it became obvious that I was making it up. My dad would get a call from the school, make up a better lie, then beat me up for almost getting him caught.

I've had DSS come to my house multiple times, as well as the police from hearing my loud screams and crying from the abuse. I've had my head slammed against a wall, I've been locked in the bathroom all night to try and protect myself. I would have to go to school in pain and lie to all my friends about what had happened.

A kid I hate lived downstairs from me, and told everyone they heard screams coming from my house. I was looked at in a whole different way. I've been beat up right in front of my mother who, try as she might, was basically helpless and couldn't help me. Sometimes, she would abuse me too. I was so young, I don't even remember the age, my mother was drinking a bottle of vodka. I came in to show her the drawing I had made in school. She shoved me into the bookcase, which fell right on top of me and I sprained my ankle.



One night, my dad had been beating me up for hours, then he left to go continue beating up my sister. Every time he would leave, I would run out behind him and try to stop him, and he would do it again. He went crazy and punched my turtle tank. The water spilled all over my floor with the moss and turtle as well. I went to get my turtle so she wouldn't step on a piece of glass, when I stepped on it myself. I had to clean that mess up that night. I was up all night long cleaning it up and I would get screamed at and threatened if my crying could be heard. The next day, I had to go to school and fake like everything was okay.

I'm 14 now, and it still affects me. When I hear or see anything about child abuse, I feel like I'm going to cry. For maybe the past year or so, this has stopped since my parents have stopped drinking. My mother had to stop because she was on her death bed due to its affects on her liver.

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Child Abuse Story From Jon

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Jan 06, 2008
NOT helpless...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your mother is NOT helpless to stop the abuse, Jon. Yes, she's helpless to fight your father physically or to protect herself or you or your sister from his blows, but she has access to resources that would get you, your sister and herself out of the house and therefore, away from your abusive father.

The way the school handled your obvious abuse was incompetent and heartbreakingly idiotic. Phoning your father was virtually the WORST decision they could have made. The way they mishandled your situation basically taught you that telling will only lead to more and even more severe abuse. Shame on them! They should have reported immediately.

You say that DSS and the police have been to your home because of screams that are clearly some sort of abuse, but you didn't elaborate. I take it you and your sister did not disclose what was really happening in your home. I take it that your mother did not stand up for you or your sister. I take it that your father lied yet again.

Jon, you said that for the past year or so "this has stopped since my parents have stopped drinking." I hope the abuse HAS stopped. But you still need help. You still need someone to talk to in order to deal with the emotional effects. Please consider contacting Child Help so that you can talk to a professionally trained counsellor about what you have been through. They can be reached by phone 24/7 at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453). Check out their website at www.childhelp.org

Jon, if you are still being abused, or witnessing the abuse of your mother, please tell someone you trust. I know you're scared and you believe nothing good will come of disclosing, but if you don't tell you continue to be in danger. You are worth so much more than living a life of hell. You should have a mother and father who love and protect and nurture you. You've been shafted, Jon. You really do deserve more.

Jan 07, 2008
Same with me
by: Francine

I'm sorry about what you had to go through. My brother would beat me up, too, and no one ever did anything about it at all. I really feel you, Jon.

Jan 14, 2008
PRAYERS
by: Anonymous

I HOPE YOU GET THE HELP YOU NEED MY PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU

May 14, 2008
Be well
by: Jonno

I feel so sorry for you having to go through something so destructive like that. Your at an age where theres alot of things that are confusing, and may seem too much sometimes, as believe me i have experienced similar distress. What you need to remember is that none of this is/was ever a result of you or your actions, and that you are a unique, and beautiful individual with a chance to show the world your inner beauty-starkly contrast with the horrors that you have experienced. You have an amazing journey ahead of you, spiritually and physically-so dont let events of the past impact on your judgement. My love and prayers are with you Jon. Take it easy.

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