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Child Abuse Story From Joe

by Joe
(Tucson, Arizona, USA)




It started at the age of 7. My neighbor's kid and I were really good friends, and his dad was so nice to me. Now I regret ever meeting him. I was so comfortable with him and he was like the cool dad on the block.

One day when I was ditching school, he took me in. He said, "let's watch a movie." While watching, he brought some popcorn and sat very close to me. He put his arm around me. At first I didn't mind. Then he began to touch and rub me. It tickled. Then he gave me a kiss on the cheek and said, "I love you." It felt weird when I tired to leave. He over-powered me. I'm not willing to discuss the details.

When I went home I felt dirty and unclean. I tried to forget about it. My friend would invite me over, but I would never go over again.

About two years later, he died in a drive-by shooting. I am still unsure of what I felt, and will never forgive him. I continually go to San Javier church and pray to forgive him so I may be forgiven, but I cannot forget or forgive that horrible experience.

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Aug 27, 2007
There's nothing you need to be forgiven for
by: Darlene Barriere

Joe, you say that you continually go to church to pray to forgive your friend's dad so that you may be forgiven . . . what happened to you wasn't your fault. There is nothing you need to be forgiven for. You were a child; it was up to your friend's dad to treat you with dignity and respect. He was the one to blame. You felt dirty and unclean after he did what he did to you--I understand those feelings--but that doesn't make you sullied in any way. You must believe that.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir


Aug 27, 2007
Come to Terms
by: Steph

Being victimized is difficult to come to terms with. I have done a lot of soul-searching and turn the negative into positive. I used to lack confidence and I was afraid to speak up for myself. Throughout the years I have used negative experiences to make myself a stronger person. I have in no way become aggressive or belligerent but I have become more confident and assertive. Perspective is the key. I have credited my abusers and the manipulators in my life for my increased knowledge on how it is done. Personally, I can spot an abuser and I steer clear. Professionally, as a counselor with criminals, I know the tactics of manipulation. Check out the grieving process, it is often helpful to process your emotions when dealing with victimization.

Sep 20, 2007
cant forgive him how ever hard u try
by: natasha

thats really bad what he done.. they always make sure you trust them first.. bet now u find it hard to trust ...

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