None of this was your fault, absolutely none of it... by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster
Jess, you leave a very important message in your story; no doubt that telling is always recommended. What you must remember about your situation is that you are now applying mature adult values to decisions you made—under a form of duress, I might add—when you were a young girl. My goodness, you were 8 years old! Don't keep struggling with this. Don't EVER blame yourself. Don't ever second guess yourself for those decisions. You cannot be held responsible for not telling. You were afraid, terrified in fact. You made the best decision you could under the circumstances. As you matured, your value system, your sense of right and wrong, entered the picture. Fault lies with your stepfather. And yes, it also lies with your mother. Once she became aware that even one of her children was being molested by this man, she should never have allowed him near any of her children again. I highly recommend some form of counselling in order to help you through all this, Jess. You certainly deserve that kind of help. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me, and for sharing that all-important message.
oh when two women's hearts speak to each other. by: maurice
Jess D. that is what I believe has happened between you and Darlene. Read her loving words to you, act on them, just don't read them. Get up off your bottom and find a counsellor who will begin a loving and real journey with you for your future happiness. Your story is your personal story and while we read on darlene's site many such similiar stories about the badness of stepfathers and the abuse they carry out on the innocent children of another woman and then maybe on the children thay have by that woman. Sicko's through and through. That very bad man did awful things to you and your siblings. Darlene surely put that truth in perspective for your. She truly knows what abuse is all about. she was abused, she knows how each abused child/teenager must deal with their abuse. each one will have their own way of dealing with it. but deal with it they must. Jess D begin today by saying, I'm Special, I'm going to love me beacuse I am the most important child ever birthed, sadly into life not of my making. I can't blame myself for what that animal insticts of a STEP FATHER did to me. Look in the MIRROR see and admire your beautiful body. be gentle on it and yourself. I can, I will, I must. beacuse I am now a wonderful and beautiful woman. There is goodness and greatness in me. I am going to let the world around me know ME. Good woman Jess D. A woman's heart is all loving, all caring, gentleness, senitivety with a loving firmness to let people know don't mess with me. My prayers are with you Jess D. Darlene wants you to be true to yourself, and all you trust with you life. She want's what is the best for you and that means speaking with a therapist or a counsellor. NOW Jess D
