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Child Abuse Story From Jenny Part 2

by Jenny
(Missouri, USA)

I debated on whether or not to include this part of the story, but decided it may help someone.

Jim, (my step-grandfather), molested me, my sisters, my cousin, and my mother, as I stated in Part 1 of the story. What I didn't tell you, was what happened to my mom.

When I became an adult, my mom told me of the abuse she had suffered. When my grandma would go to work at night, Jim would either put in an X rated movie or bring out the dirty magazines, and make my mom watch him masturbate. He would show her his penis. He actually had sexual relations with a goat at one point.

My mom still struggles with the pain it has caused her. She is now 50 years old. She never finished school because of this. She was extremely violent towards other kids during her childhood, which is why she was kicked out of schools. She started smoking cigarettes at the age of 7. She quit about 7 years ago. She has always been a good mother to us, but she has always had a short fuse. I remember one Christmas morning she had made a huge dinner and one of my sisters wanted to go back to bed to take a nap. My mom threw the entire dinner on the floor of the kitchen and stormed off. We didn't get to have Christmas dinner that day.

My mom is addicted to pain medications and her brothers all have substance abuse problems. I don't know if my uncles were abused by Jim.

My point in telling all of this is that child abuse, or any abuse for that matter, has lasting effects on people. It's so hard to move on. There's no way to ever forget the abuse you've suffered, but I believe with all my heart that there is hope!

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Mar 03, 2008
Ever-lasting effects...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You are so right when you say that child abuse has lasting effects on people. Your mother's behaviour as a teen was perfectly understandable.

Your mother and I are the same age, Jenny, so I can relate only too well to the lack of services and the willful disregard she grew up with. I sincerely hope your mother is in some form of counselling to help her deal with the emotional residue she continues to face every day. The fact that Jim, her sexual molester, is dying has probably reawakened much of the pain she was forced to endure at his hands. Her own mother (my god, her own mother) continues to call her a liar and denies that any sexual abuse took place, even in light of overwhelming evidence; the pain must be unbearable for her.

I thank you for sharing what your mother lived through, Jenny. I believe as you believe that telling her story will indeed help others on this site.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Mar 06, 2008
He's a Pedifile!
by: Linda

A man that has sex with a goat is the worse kind of molester! To molest a poor animal is one hideous and what he did to your family is unthinkable! Cancer is his punishment. You are a big person to forgive him, I wouldn't be able to do it! Have a blessed life sweetheart, and good luck to you and your family in your healing process.

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