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Child Abuse Story From Jenail

by Jenail
(Alabama, USA)

It all started when I was about 4 or 5. I always stayed with my grandmother. My mother wasn't ever really there. It all started when I was sitting in the room, playing with my doll. My cousins and my aunts and uncles stayed there too, which is still the case. My cousin is 8 years older than me. He began uncomfortably touching me during my years of 4 and 8. I was possibly being molested by my older cousins. They made me play games with them, such as hide and go get. I was too young to know better, so I approved to anything they told me.

One of my cousins that is two years older than me once forced me to suck his penis. I didn't really know better at that time. I guess because I was too young. Then one summer when I was 7, my dad came to pick me up. This was the first time that I had ever seen him in my whole life, because he had been in and out of prison. On my visit with him, he dropped me off at his mom's house (my grandma). That's when I was touched by my other cousin. I felt so uncomfortable with him touching me. I kept telling him to stop, but he held me down fiercely with one hand, while his other hand was working all over my personal private parts. The lights were off. Me and him were the only ones up. I felt like I was left in the dark. I never told a soul about this because of my deep fears. It's just disgraceful.

Then there is my mom. She constantly beats on my brother and I. She says mean things to us, like she wishes we were never born, and she'll send us to heaven or hell. She even tells us she hates us. She gives all the praises to my baby sister, who she thinks is better. But now I think I am overcoming my fears and nightmares. I'm hoping everything is becoming better. I am now 13 years old.

I stay thanking God for helping me make it this far. And I pray that He makes everything better for all the others in the same position or even worse. May God bless you all that are reading this. I pray that He makes it better for others that are in the same position. Thanks

Sincerely,
Jenail

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May 04, 2008
TELL someone...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Jenail, you need to tell someone what is happening to you. Talk to a teacher or a counsellor at school. You don't deserve to be treated the way your mother and cousins are treating you. You don't deserve to be told by your mother that she wishes you had never been born. You don't deserve to be beaten by your mother. You don't deserve to be sexually molested by your cousins. You deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. You deserve to have a loving and caring and nurturing mother. You deserve to have someone in your life protecting you from harm. Your baby sister is NOT better than you; you are PERFECT exactly as you are. Don't believe anything else.

And don't for one second blame yourself for any of the abuse you are suffering, and have suffered, through. None of it was, or is, your fault, Jenail. NONE OF IT! You didn't let your cousin molest you; he took advantage of your innocence.

If you're not comfortable talking with someone face to face, I urge you to contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone there about the abuse you are still dealing with. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, but they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose the abuse. And I really hope you do disclose, Jenail. You are too precious to NOT report.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Oct 02, 2008
sorry
by: Anonymous

i am very sorry for your story
i have been reading a lot of them today and yours a can relate to the most im almost 15 (kind of your age) and i kno how it feels
my whole family (brothers and sister)ran away and left all the pain for me i try to make it threw it and hearing your story helps im not alone hearing how someone who is supposed to have that unconditional love for there child doesnt is a true tragety. the words stay stuck in your mind forever. well in my mind they do. the memories are the same also but knowing your not alone should help. i just want to let u kno you will get threw it and when its all over you will be really strong for surviving it hope things get better for u fast.

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