Child Abuse Story From Jaye

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Child Abuse Story From Jaye

by Jaye
(USA)

I'm just now realizing that what I went through as a child and teenager was considered abuse. I wasn't hit or fondled, but I was told I was "ugly", "annoying" and "nothing special" on a daily basis. Both at home and at school. For years I've fallen into deep depression at the most innocent of criticism or by men's rejection and have often thought about suicide. I push people away, can't get close and when I try and open up, I just get told that my problems are nothing, just like when I was younger. My parents to this day do not want me to show any sadness even though my heart is perpetually broken, yet want me to feel bad when they do. I just don't know how to feel, behave or cope. The only thing I do know is I want to be happy, have friends, and live a normal life.

Darlene Barriere: author. speaker. survivor. coach

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Nov 26, 2009

Emotional abuse has life-long effects...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Jaye, emotional abuse can be the most difficult to overcome, because we hear the negative messages so often during our early childhood and adolescent years that we can't help but believe them. But you are not any of the awful things your parents told you. You are beautiful, unique, and worthy of dignity and respect. Being rejected both at home and at school makes it doubly hard, since these are the primary places that shape the view we have of ourselves. The trick now, Jaye, is to allow yourself to feel whatever you feel in the moment. Don't question those feelings, just feel them, without the internal voice telling you to do otherwise. A counsellor may be able to help you with this, and help you to cope with the repercussions of growing up with such negative messages. You deserve that kind of help. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

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Jaye, <a href="http://www.child-abuse-effects.com/emotional-child-abuse.html">emotional abuse</a> can be the most difficult to overcome, because we hear the negative messages so often during our early childhood and adolescent years that we can't help but believe them. But you are not any of the awful things your parents told you. You are beautiful, unique, and worthy of dignity and respect. Being <a href="http://www.child-abuse-effects.com/types-of-emotional-abuse.html#rejecting">rejected</a> both at home and at school makes it doubly hard, since these are the primary places that shape the view we have of ourselves. The trick now, Jaye, is to allow yourself to feel whatever you feel in the moment. Don't question those feelings, just feel them, without the internal voice telling you to do otherwise. A counsellor may be able to help you with this, and help you to cope with the repercussions of growing up with such negative messages. You deserve that kind of help. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. <img src="http://www.child-abuse-effects.com/images/DBbookiconvictimtovictory96x97px.jpg" alt="From Victim to Victory, a memoir" align="left" hspace=12 vspace=2> Darlene Barriere Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com author. speaker. survivor. coach <a href="http://www.child-abuse-effects.com/my-story-of-abuse.html" title="From Victim to Victory, a memoir">From Victim to Victory, a memoir</a>

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Nov 27, 2009

Always Believe in Yourself. I can, I will, I must,
by: maurice

Positive thinking Jaye about yourself NOW. Darlene's comment, Hi read it, soak it into your belly let the positivety of it flow out of you into your heart and head and kick ass and get on with living your life to the full. I can, I will, I must, Think positive, act Positive, Be positive, Have a healthy mind in a healthy body, get out there and mix, make friends, be with frinds who build you up not put you down like those morons did in your childhood and teenage years at home and at school. Become a team person, work with others, share with others, be true to yourself Jaye. You have a mind of your own now. You can say I am not the person you said I was, you what ever, I'M SPECIAL, I'M UNIQUE AND I AM GOING TO LOVE ME. Build up your self worth, value yourself, when you look in the mirror see the fine person you are, Say it out, I am a fine person. Have a healthy mind in that healthy body of yours Jaye. If you have the opportunity try and have a few sessions with a counsellor he/she will confirm what Darlene and I want for you now in your life. So get off your negative thinking ass and put on a positive thinking head. You'll be fine.

Dec 22, 2009

To Liza:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Liza, I cannot post your comment here. I sympathize with your situation, but this thread is reserved for comments directly to Jaye, the person who wrote their child abuse story.

This site is a place where all you can expect is some form of encouragement and/or validation, sometimes only a thank you. It is not a place where you can expect advice. In fact, I don't allow questions or requests for information any longer because I no longer have the time it requires of me. You are welcome to post your story through my stories page at Child Abuse Stories, as long as you understand the way my site operates. Thank you for your understanding.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

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