Child Abuse Story From Jade

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Child Abuse Story From Jade

by Jade
(USA)

Im writing this because i've come to a crossroad in my life where sexual child abuse from my past has started to effect me more and more.Im now 21 and I was sexually abused by my fathers next door neighbour whos son i used to go round and play with. It started when i was 5 till about 9 and it only stopped because they moved away. I havnt told anyone but my Boyfriend. I tell myself sometimes to just keep keeping this secret and it will eventually go away but it always re-surfaces whether it be from books i read, programmes i watch or stories on the news that i come across. It has effected my sexual relationship with my Boyfriend sometimes, it has effected my anger also and my temper. I cant cope emotionally sometimes. Im trying to find the strength to tell my family as i think it will help me move on but its proving very difficult. I know it will cause a lot of pain to them. If anyone could help it would be much appreciated. Thank you.

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Dec 05, 2011

Jade:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

The longer you keep trying to bury this terrible secret, the more you will be triggered to remember, and the more you will be affected within your life. With your relationships, at work, with your family, with friends, with everything. Burying your emotions serves to continue to re-victimize you because your mind and body are telling you that they need you to deal with what's eating at you. The fact that it keeps coming back is a good thing, difficult as that is to believe right now. Trying to circumvent your pain will keep it coming back. Your mind and body are telling you that you are now strong enough to being to heal from it. They are telling you that they will not give up on you. So listen to it. Seek out some form of counselling or therapy in order to bring to the surface all the memories and the emotions tied to them. Only then will they let go of you. You won't let go of them; it's the other way around. Recognize that the memories are just that: memories. That they are not actually happening in the moment. That you've already dealt with the worst of it by living it. Take what your body is telling you and do for your Self what you haven't been able to do till now. You have only your pain to lose as a result. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Dec 06, 2011

Another thought
by: Carrie

Hi,

I am so sorry you went through that. I have been abused too. I just wanted to add to what Darlene said. If you keep trying to forget or push it down. It can come out in other ways, such as unexplained medical issues such as colitis...(just an example) It will come out in one way or another. I hope you can find it in yourself to find a good Councillor who can help. It is so painful dealing with it, but when you come out on the other side, it is amazing, so freeing, you will see the world and life in a different way. You will take back your power, you will be able to see the positive. I wish you all the very best that life has to offer.

Carrie

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