Child Abuse Story From Jaclyn B

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Child Abuse Story From Jaclyn B

by Jaclyn B
(Ontario, Canada)

I want to tell my story but alot of places won't cuzs they could be sued I grew up in the CCAS I was in it at age 3 made a crown ward at age 5 I was in 20 foster homes and was abused in 15 of them I was beaten and raped and put on life support and in a comma I had a bad life I was in trouble with the law and I just had my son 18 months ago they took him at birth and they are putting him up for adoption and there going to do the same with the baby I'm pregnant with and I've changed so much in the past 4 years they say they are there for the children but where were they when I needed them they knew what was happening but turned a blind eye but they don't care about most of the kids there's crack heads that have there kids all I want is a chance it's not fair that they can use the past and my illness I have FASD (Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder) depression and ADHD I'm going for compensation but that won't help I just hope you will read my story some times I don't want to live with out my children but I keep on going cuzs I think of my son and this pregnancy I would never hurt my children like they say I would I know how I was abused and would never do that to my kids

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Oct 28, 2011

Jaclyn:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

The kind of help you need, no one who visits this site can provide. What you endured growing up is beyond what most can even fathom. You were betrayed and abandoned over and over and over again. The place to start is within your Self, Jaclyn. Understand that you are worthy of dignity and respect, and so is your body. Understand that getting pregnant repeatedly is not going to fill that emptiness inside of you. The way the system is going after you, every pregnancy will only serve to re-victimize you. Please get some form of psychological help for your Self. At the very least, if you can show the powers that be that you are making strides in your life, that you are in recovery, and that you are not the risk they believe you to be, only then do you have hope of access to your own babies. But having babies is not the answer to your plight. You must make better choices for your Self, Jaclyn. Choices that clearly show that you are on the road toward healing and recovery. Pregnancies and babies are not that road. Babies take a great deal of energy and presence of mind. They require so much more that you may not even understand at this point in your life. It's not enough to say that you would never abuse your child, because children need so much more. Work on your Self and your recovery, Jaclyn. Make that the priority...make YOU the priority. You are so worthy of that. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Nov 02, 2011

legal advice?
by: My Two Cents

Hi, I had a couple of thoughts I wanted to throw out there for you to consider.

It's my understanding that you have a legal right to procreate - whether that's in the charter, the federal human rights code or your province's human rights code is something for you to investigate.

The state CAN remove children from the custody of their parents, BUT they MUST follow rules when doing it. They have to prove that you are an unfit parent for example on the basis that you are a substance abuser with cocaine lying around your home. Or that you beat your children, or neglect them somehow.

In the case you are describing, it sounds like you are being discriminated against on the basis of disability and possibly also on the basis of your upbringing.

Now, if you agree that could be the case, you can contact the canadian human rights commission and start a complaint. They will investigate, and if they find you have a case, they will fight on your behalf. My understanding is that all of this is free. Our collective taxpayer monies fund this human rights commission.

I would suggest that you ask. It doesn't hurt to ask. And in your favor is a decision that was made in manitoba, I believe in 1997? Google "manitoba, glue sniffing mom forced into treatment". There are parallels with your story. The short version, the mom was a pregnant substance abuser that child welfare in manitoba tried to force into rehabilitation treatment to protect the fetus. It went to court and the court ruled that mom could not be forced into treatment. As I recall, she choose to continue treatment (she was in it when the case was heard) and she got clean, had a healthy child and is apparently still doing well.
Anyways....ask the human rights commission, or a legal aid lawyer and see what happens.

Now, before you think this is a solution, if legal people say you have a case, this does not get resolved in one hour like on t.v. Not for a complicated matter like this. Expect it to take between 3 to 7 years.

I hope that is helpful. I wish you the best of luck in regaining custody of your children.

Be well.

My Two Cents.

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