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Child Abuse Story From Jack

by Jack
(Myrtle Beach, South Caroline, USA)




My parents were never married to each other. This was because my dad was already married but he was getting a divorce which since he had kids took longer to get out of the relationship than he'd planned. I was born in Germany, but soon after my birth my mother and I moved to the United States while my dad stayed in Germany.

My life was pretty normal. I had a nice home and a caring mother. When I was about 6 years old my dad was shot and killed by his wife. I never got to meet him...my mom lost it after that, but things didn't completely come to an end till my great grandpa was shot and killed by his wife. My mother seemed to lose interest in me after that. She began locking herself up in her room.

When I was about 8 years old she had found herself a boyfriend. He was a short man but he looked as if he was a bar brawler.

After him and my mom married he started abusing me and my mom. If I did something bad he would pick me up by the neck and yell at me. He would beat me with his belt if his day at work wasn't so good. He put out his cigs on my neck. He screamed at my mom a lot and he would hurt her badly. He also forced my mother to have sex with him. They would have sex in front of me. My stepdad cheated on my mom many times as well.

My mom started doing drugs such as acid. One day she was high on acid in her room while my stepdad was at work. She called me to her bedside and she looked at me and said, "I see your father in you" then she reached up and touched my face then she lowered her hand till she was rubbing my balls with her hand. Then she told me to lay on the bed and take my clothes off...I did so and she gave me oral sex and made me give her oral sex....



As I got a little older she started doing more to me. She started having sex with me and if I fought back she'd hurt me...when she did this she called me by my father's first name. She started doing this to me when I was 9 and she stopped doing this once I ran away with the love of my life at the age of 16. I am 21 now.

I hate her so much!!! I wish both my mom and my stepdad would die!!!

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Child Abuse Story From Jack

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Sep 20, 2009
Understandable anger...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I understand your anger and hostility, Jack. I also know that it will eat you up and affect every aspect of your life, which is why I strongly suggest some form of counselling. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

A Video Reading by Darlene Barriere
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Sep 20, 2009
A pervert for a mother...and a vicious beater for a stepfather
by: Anonymous

Jack, your mother (if you want to call her that, even) is a pervert and she should've been in prison with your slimy stepfather together for the those terrible crimes that they committed against you. I'm sorry not only for you being subjected to such disgusting cruelty, but also for your father (the one in Germany) and great grandfather's deaths at the hands of their wives...one by each wife. However, although I hope that you try counselling, I'm so glad that your girlfriend is with you now because she is so sweet for doing that. Be brave, Jack, and stay strong!

Sep 21, 2009
Time to Break the Cycle
by: Anonymous

HI Jack
I just wanted to say how incredibly brave you are to speak out and share your story. I am deeply sorry this happened to you. It sounds like your mother had severe issues- and needed a lot of help she never got. No EXCUSE though to continue on this abuse of you. It is NOT your fault nor your responsibility for her problems.
I would also like to suggest you find someone you can trust who can help you deal with your past so it doesn't affect your future as badly as it could. All that pain has to come out and if you don't deal with it the best you can with help, eventually it could come out all on its own.
There is support and help- I pray you find it. My prayers to you and you are a survivor.

Sep 21, 2009
Be Brave, Be strong, Be persevering.
by: maurice

Jack, your story is horrific, you were abused badly by very sick individuals and the most vunerable and innocent years of your life. The fact that you found Darlene site and detailed your abuse to her and her visitors means you want to be healed from it all. Jack with that wonderful and special friend in your life now hold hands together and take your written story to a counsellor and take it from there. The counsellor will help you both to move on in your life. It was a talk with a Therapist that I began to healing from abuse at 33 years of age. I went through hell trying my damnest to understand was I abused or not or was it just part and parcel of growing up in boarding and the form of so called discipline was being beaten on the bare bottom . It too me all those years to be told that I was abused. So Jack speaking with a counsellor will set you up to living a fuller life with those whom you trust now. You are gifted and inteeligent so please with that special girl friend now go for help. I hope too that you have a friend who will help both of you to go for counselling. The Golden Nugget is a true friend we all need in our lives. Always believe in yoursefl. Live well, Laugh alot, Love much. Begin to having a huge mirror image of yourself. Think loving and affirming thoughts about yourself and rid yourself of the negative ones. era go on you'll feel all the better for it. Us males can love ourlelves it is a natural gift in built so let us bring it out into the open. I'M SPECIAL, I LOVE ME.

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