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Child Abuse Story From Izzi

by Izzi
(Location Undisclosed)




My father has always been questionable. Ever since I was little, he'd always make "jokes" and say things to me and my older brother that usually referred to something sexual. Now, he still does it. He always threatens to either break my belongings, kill my dog, or hurt me in some way. He always screams at me and calls me names. He lies all the time, and when I figure out he's lying, he punches me. As a young child, I've seen him hurt my brother numerous times to the point where he's in tears on the ground, drowning in his own tears. I never could comprehend any of this, so I sat and watched.

It just keeps getting worse and worse. I don't know what to do. It is not too serious, as some stories on here may be, but it still leaves me physically or emotionally hurt in some way. They always tell me that if I tell anyone, "I'm going to get it."

My mother also curses at me, calling me names and beating me with various items. She screams and always spanks me for no reason.




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Child Abuse Story From Izzi

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May 07, 2011
Izzi:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Like I already wrote to another contributor this morning, try not to compare your situation to that of others on this site. It's about the effects that the abuse has had on you that you need to be looking at; not whether or not your story is worse than someone else who wrote here. Your parents are troubled, and they're taking out their troubles on both of you, and then misusing their power to threaten you into silence. But if you keep the silence, nothing can change. You and your brother need help. If you live in the USA, please contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about the abuse you are still dealing with. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose the abuse. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childhelp.org/get_help
If you are not in the USA, contact one of the hotlines listed on my stories page, depending on where you live, in order to talk to someone confidentially.

You and your brother do not deserve to be mistreated, Izzi. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you are being mistreated.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

May 08, 2011
Such uncontrolled sadism
by: Anonymous

Izzi, something's seriously wrong with your parents....and you were given a raw, crappy deal because they're so twisted that they don't even know how to take care of themselves, not to mention be parents to you and your brother. they don't know how to love even themselves; all they ever knew is hate, so they should've known better and loved and cherished you instead of sadistically abusing you guys. They didn't deserve to have such two beautiful kids like you and your brother, but most of all, you guys didn't deserve to have such cruel twisted beasts for parents. Oh, and threatening you to keep quiet is a truly sadistic, cowardly thing to do because only cowards do that to such helpless children you and your brother once were. Oh, and making cruel jokes about you and your brother really shows me how uneducated and ignorant they really are. You are not to blame for their ignorant behavior; they are to blame because they chose to abuse you. You were the children; they were the adults; they had all the power and only misused that power over you guys in one of the most vile ways, so the sooner you tell, the better. Darlene is right! Please tell someone you really trust and keep telling until he/she will finally listen to you and help you. Oh, and don't let them destroy you guys; please look into reporting them.

May 08, 2011
Why do Parents abuse the dignity of their own children?
by: maurice

It is a real question that is still a mystery to me, again NOW after reading your telling the truth about your real feelings and the absue of your brother too: Hi, Izzi, please don't compare as Darlene requests you not to: Read her affirming, loving, caring concerned words to you and your brother: You both are special: Yes, Darlene is true to her words: She values and resepct each of her visitors in a personal way: So be sure to heed her words to you Don't compare: You aand your brother are expereinceing abuse: it is effecting you both: being abused is trully real and personal to the each innocent and vunerable child it happens to: Izzi: You'll be fine, please seek the help and counselling that will benefit you and your brother; follow Darlene's guide-lines to success and being a winner over your abuser: Your should be loved and cherished, your dignity respected: Izzi: think about having a healthy mind in a healthy body: giving good example to your brother: Take part in your school or college Physical Education program: Take part in Team sports with you friends you own age and gender: A whole new life will open up for you: You are gifted: You are tallented: You have leadership qualities to a good team person: Share and have other beenfit of your goodness and greatness: Don't Be Lazy Now Izzi: I won't: let your new motto be,
I WILL I CAN I MUST Why???? Because I am WORTH it That you are Izzi stay safe be safe and keep your broether safe too:

May 09, 2011
Please read this
by: Anonymous

Hi Izzi,
It took me many years to understand something but I know its true so if my words make any difference to you then I would have done a good deed! Parents that abuse their children as happened with me, do two things (apart from actually hurting you physically): they threaten to destroy or cause damage to everything the child likes or loves (eg, the dog-come on! they know it hurts like hell when they threaten to hurt it), AND they tell the child NOT TO SAY anything because if they do then they will get "in trouble"...some parents like mine even told me that they would throw me out in the streets, or kill me if I did. From my experience this means that they are mentally unstable and use violence as a way to "vent" their feelings. Like its too much for them being "them" and they need to let it out and blame someone else.You said a "key-word" that "its getting worse" this is the truth.It does get worse in time because you get older and their mental state worsens. Your case is no less important or painful than ours.Mine started off like yours and escalated to hell when I was 25 (almost got killed). So please tell someone about it that can help you.Their trick is to have you think there is NO help available, that nobody will believe or listen! This is a very common trick and A LIE!! Normal parents DO NOT act like yours and mine and so A LOT of people WILL believe you. All they have to do is look at how THEY treat their children and simply make COMPARISONS. Please take action and let us know about it here. I wish you the best and strength to tell someone.

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