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Child Abuse Story From Harriet

by Harriert Dawes
(Gallup, New Mexico, USA)




I'm 26 years old now. I was adopted when I was a baby, but didn't realize this until I was about 11 years old. I have 2 other siblings who were adopted with me. My stepmother is still around. I have a stepbrother.

When we were little, my stepmother used to get so mad about the littlest things. I remember when we didn't massage her feet. She would grab a hanger or a stick and hit us with it, or throw a shoe at us. We were punished for things like not taking care of my little brother. She would get some sort of object to hit us with. My other sisters would also get hit. We were hit for such small things.

I remember when we were at my auntie's house. I don't remember what I did wrong, but she made us take all of our clothes off and she spanked us with a belt or a stick and made us sit there naked, in front of our step-cousins, who were boys and girls. Then, whenever we got sick, she made us drink almost half a bottle of cough syrup. About 30 or 40 minutes later, I felt drunk.

One day, she had gotten after my older sister about something and beat her with a stick, then made her sit outside. That's when my sister made a break for it and ran away. She returned to my biological family.

On another day, my stepmother told me to cook for my stepbrother. The skillet we used was not too good; it electrocuted me. My stepmother just laughed and then told me to cook. I was scared and crying. I screamed out loud when that happened.



Before I found out I was adopted, I thought to myself, aren't real mothers supposed to be nice to their kids and spoil them? She put us in boarding schools. I tried my hardest to make her proud, but no matter what I did, it was never enough. The things she used on us: wires, ropes, shoes, hangers. She slapped us around and pulled our hair. The way she use to give us a bath, she would put her hands up our vaginas and tell us, "Wash it here. You're gonna have a boyfriend later in life and he is gonna say it stinks." I cried when she did that. I never understood why she adopt us if she was gonna do that to us, be her slaves and punching bag.

Now I am a mother of 4 boys. I lost custody of my first son due to child abuse which happened when I was at work. My ex-boyfriend had been watching my son. During that time, he burned him with hot water and his little sisters bit him and scratched him. They charged me and not him. My son is now with his dad's parents. His father is a deadbeat dad. He just makes babies and doesn't care for them. But I told myself I would be a better parent for my kids. I want them to have fun and laugh, something I could not do as a child.

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Child Abuse Story From Harriet

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Jan 11, 2008
So twisted . . .
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Harriet, your stepmother should have loved you and treated you with dignity and respect. What she did to you and your siblings when you were at your auntie's house, beating you all while you were naked and then making you all sit there, still naked, in front of your step-cousins was nothing short of sick and warped. She used cruel and unusual punishment. The way she treated bath time was repulsively twisted and perverted. Her job was to teach your right from wrong. Her job was to protect you and nurture you and be supportive of you. She failed on all counts. I personally wouldn't let her anywhere near my children!

As for you auntie, what the heck was she thinking? My god, she should have put a stop to the abuse your stepmother inflicted! At the very least, she should have reported the abuse to Social Services.

As I read your story, I kept asking myself about your stepfather. I kept asking why there wasn't another adult present to stop the abuse your stepmother was so cruelly imposing.

I cannot emphasize strongly enough how important it is for your to seek out some form of counselling, Harriet. Counselling can help you deal with all the betrayal and abandonment you are feeling. Counselling can help you to become a better parent yourself, because when you take care of your children's mother you teach your boys valuable lessons on how women should take care of themselves. When you are emotionally healthy, your children benefit emotionally too.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jan 11, 2008
Sick!
by: Francine

Harriet, you never deserved a stepmother who would treat you/your siblings with such anger and hostility! You should've deserved a stepmom who would love, nurture, care for, and protect you guys from harm. Unfortunately, you got a raw deal, Harriet, a crappy, raw deal (excuse my French), and here's why: Your stepmother had a lot of choices and she made the wrong ones, indeed, and the wrong ones are about abusing you and choosing her own kids (your step-siblings) over you guys when she took you in as a baby. You might want to seek counselling as well as professional help (so do your siblings). My parents argue, yell, and hit me, too, but they haven't done more than that! You are a srtong woman, Harriet, very strong! Take care, dear!

Jan 17, 2008
you are so strong
by: Cassy Wilson

you are the most strongest person ever. i may not know you but you seem so strong you are a real merical.

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