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Child Abuse Story From Guilberto

by Jilbert
(Canada)




School of Terror: 
I was born in Saudi-Arabia of Lebanese-Armenian parents. They decided to start a family in Saudi since Lebanon was torn by civil war. So at the age of 4, my parents sent me to Saudi school. From the start, I was categorized and rejected for my ethnic and religious backgrounds. The other kids would constantly harass and injure me in every possible way. No one really stood for my defense, especially the school staff. If anything, they encouraged kids to pick on non-Muslims, and there were only 2 at this school, me being one of them.

Besides that, the teachers were particularly violent with their ways of teaching. Students had to study well and always perform at the teacher's expectations level. If you failed to meet these expectations you were on for a good dose of verbal and physical humiliation in front of all your peers.

Each morning was a torture just to get out of bed and go to school. I was sick to my stomach, literally. My intestines and throat felt so tied-up that I never had breakfast in the morning because I felt like puking. I remember running away from the school on recess, but to go nowhere very far. When brought back I got one hell of a discipline. On my knees, facing the wall, being beaten with a stick on my feet and screamed at. My parents could do nothing because this was acceptable discipline in all Saudi schools.



I was 8 when we moved to Canada. My dad kept telling me that in this country there were no such things as beatings and that everyone was respectful. The first day of school a bully stuck gum in my hair and other kids spat on me. Because I was different, because I had become a little chubby boy.

I am 30 now, and I feel as if I am emotionally handicapped. I have destructive addictions and I engage in risky behaviors. My girlfriend and I started to consult with a therapist less than a month ago, and I believe I am heading towards a healing path.

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Child Abuse Story From Guilberto

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Aug 11, 2008
Such cruelty...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Jilbert, you lived in a hate-filled and prejudiced country whose teachers encouraged rejection, isolation and physical harm at the hands of your school peers. Then, if this emotional abuse from your teachers and the severe bullying you endured day after day from your schoolmates wasn't enough, the further malicious cruelty you faced directly at the hands of the teachers must have been unbearable. It is no wonder you would want to vomit at the thought of having to go to school each day. To be beaten anywhere on the body is excruciating; to be beaten on the bottom of the feet is nothing short of torture. A society that accepts such barbaric forms of child "discipline" is a society that has no regard for the well-being of their most vulnerable. Such harsh forms of "discipline" only serves to turn defenseless children into angry, hostile, often self-destructive adults; many of whom go on to perpetrate the same callous abuse, either (or both) in their own homes or as teachers themselves.

The devastation you must have felt when you arrived in Canada, expecting to be treated with dignity and respect, expecting to be accepted as you were, only to discover that you would have to endure more of the same bullying behaviours you had so gratefully managed to escape from in Saudi Arabia...my heart bleeds for the precious little boy who so desperately wanted to be accepted. Bullying leaves such deep scars.

I'm delighted that you are in therapy. With therapy, perhaps you'll come to understand that you didn't deserve to be mistreated by your teachers and your peers, that you didn't deserve to be shunned and beaten. When you come to understand that what you DESERVED was dignity and respect, perhaps you will treat yourself with better regard, perhaps you will cease with your destructive and risky behaviours. Treat YOURSELF better than anyone ever has. You're worth it, Jilbert.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Aug 11, 2008
Touched
by: Guilberto

I want to thank you so deeply for taking the time to answer and acknowledge my story Darlene. Your resourceful website helped me better understand and realize what child abuse is. You are a precious jewel and you have a very big heart. I am looking forward to read your book very soon.

Yours truely

J

Aug 11, 2008
A reciprocating thank you...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Jilbert, you honour me with such praise; thank you for taking the time to share your heartfelt appreciation. It comes at a very opportune time.

As for my book, I hope my story touches you in some significant way. May you find both inspiration and insight as you read through the pages.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir



Aug 16, 2008
From a Muslim
by: Yupp

i am so sorry that happened to you. I know it could be a torture to be rejected and discriminated as a child. I just want to ask you to please not think bad of all Muslims because some of them were so unfair to you. Coming from a country like lebonanon, it would have been very difficult to fit in Saudi Arabia. But i really hope that you don't hate all Muslims because of that. Again i am sorry that happened, and i hope you find in your heart the strength to overcome all your fears. take cares.

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